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Submitted by libra2libra83 on Thu, 12/04/2014 - 11:15am

https://womenwithworth.wordpress.com/2014/11/30/a-open-letter-to-my-daug...

I really enjoyed the comments on this letter. Especially the one where one woman tried to explain that a marriage should always come before the child's wants and an anonymous SD stated that children always come first.

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MommyNotMommy's picture

Submitted by MommyNotMommy on Thu, 12/04/2014 - 11:23am

My SIL has this kind of loving relationship with her daughter's SMom. It helps I think that the Smom came into the marriage with a daughter the same age. And I know it wasn't always rainbows and unicorns.

I go back and forth between being a little disgusted and being a little jealous. Lol! I'll never have to choose not to do this though, BM is too damn crazy to get much further than politeness.

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Submitted by Ninji on Thu, 12/04/2014 - 11:30am

After reading some of the comments from the article, I found it odd that people are arguing over who is a priority in the dad's life, Daughter or his new Wife.

I personally think that there are days when I need to have priority, days when Skids need it and days when SO needs to be priority number one. It's an ever revolving process. But that's just my opinion.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 12/04/2014 - 12:29pm

agree...

I'm not in competition with my DH's daughter, because I'm not competing for a DAD as a DAUGHTER. The girl skids may be in competition with each other for DH's attention, but not me. I already have a dad.

Just like the girl skids cant compete with me for DH's attention because he gives me different attention then him.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 12/04/2014 - 12:30pm

I think priorities change. Responsibilities change. People have different wants and needs at different times.

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Submitted by B22S22 on Fri, 12/05/2014 - 5:38am

I just read thru this, and the other post about this article.

Strange, but tell me if you all have experienced this:

I don't believe I've EVER had one of MY children question my priorities/responsibilities (meaning, them vs my DH). Maybe in their younger years they tried, but I shut down the (attempt at) disrespect immediately and set the who's who boundaries immediately? I mean, MY kids have to deal with a step parent too, so why aren't they acting that way?