I know it has been since about July when I last posted. I can’t thank you all enough for ALL your support through my turbulent time. I wanted to vent and update what was going on in my situation and of course always look for everyone’s "wonderful advice"
Well, I did leave DH that day and I left for weeks! I went through the constant text messages, phone calls, and calls from his friends, and family. What a waste of my time.
I have to say that I truly tried in this marriage. We are now legally separated and heading for a full divorce.
I didn’t want to speak much about what "straw" broke me that day, but I do need to close this chapter. I just felt at the time, my son and I were going through so much and I needed to focus on keeping my son healthy and safe, as well as myself too. So I took a bit of a break from writing and just focused on us, for the 1st time in a long time.
As I mentioned, his children always took 1st place in his life. I learned the hard way, especially that night.
My DH was becoming very verbally abusive, and of course like most "abused" persons say is that I’m not being treated that way. Well I was so very wrong. I was just too blinded by my love and commitment I had to him.
However, his verbal abuse turned even more sour right before I left.
We had a very large fight about his children, and in front of his kids (thank goodness my son was sleeping) He threatened to throw me across the room, and his one daughter, said, and I quote “you don’t like her anyway, so why don’t you just ignore her"
I was livid. Of course, because I could not hold my tongue at this point, I said "in" front of his darling daughters, that I felt he was abusive and was sick, and obsessed about children that abuse, and use not only him, but me and my son.
That when he choked me. Grabbed me by the throat and pushed me up against the kitchen wall. His middle daughter, Stood there screaming yelling "daddy stop" daddy stop", and she went off running upstairs crying , and he let me go. He ran to coddle his daughter, and I ran and grabbed my purse, my phone and locked myself in my son’s bedroom. I then called a family member who later on pick my son and me up. Mind you my asshole husband was way too concerned with his “daughters crying” then worrying about the fact that he just put his hands on “his wife” and threatened her with violence. Ironically, I should have seen this behavior coming. He has claimed to me that “I had this coming to me”?? Umm, WTF is that about? I don’t think anyone “has “that coming to them. I think beyond anything he was wrong, and now it comes clear to me why he and his ex-had so many problems during their marriage. After some digging, I found out that he had many calls to the police about him, as well as a restraining order he had against him from his Kids BM, and he had one against him as well. So these are things I WISH I knew before I married or even got involved with this man.
But my son and I are happy and SAFE! The most important being safe, first and foremost. He continued to harass me and threaten me with the most disgusting and vile threats. I ended up having to get a restraining order against him. Its unfortunate, but he threatened to shoot me in the head one evening via text and that is just not “okay” in any way. So for now, my son and I are living with family. I am currently looking to sell my home, which those venomous pigs only just moved out of. I had to get the court system involved to get them and their shit out of my home. (can you imagine).So I think the future looks bright.
I can’t thank you all so much for all your help and thoughts and kind words. I apologize for leaving those hanging that were wondering what happened.
I thank you all from the bottom of my heart for giving me the strength to really stand up for myself, and even save my life and even my sons!
Hugs and kisses to you all!!!!!!