My ex is the same way, with the exception that he does not see my bios eow, he is supposed to but he doesn't, he sees them when it is convenient for him. He does not know their teachers names, their doctors names, he doesn't even know what size of clothes or shoes they wear. And no I do not believe it is just a man thing, yesterday my DH stopped at an outlet store on his way home, they had boys shorts at great prices, he bought BS12 & BS13 both a pair of shorts and a new t-shirt WITHOUT asking anyone what sizes to get and they fit the boys perfectly.

Yeah my Ex wouldnt know any of that stuff. Very same situation as you Kalinda. I guess since I have it all handled he doesnt need to know the other details? :?

Honestly, he sees her 4 days a month, never on school days so he wouldn't have a need to know it. I can't remember my grandson's teachers name and I look at his stupid planner every few weeks. I do know its the same teacher from last year, she moved up to a new class.

Men do leave those things to the mother. How about you create and print out a listing of all that pertinent information including your ex's name and phone as well as yours. Include any doctors etc.

Put your ex's on the list to prove its just a general information emergency contact list as opposed to your name alone which will tend to minimize his importance which he may take umbrage to.

Make several copies and tell him you're keeping one in your glove compartment and perhaps he should also as well as at home. Does the child take a regular bag with her to Daddies like a knapsack? Put one in there also and tell your SO if any where the home copy is.

My exH can tell you the start date and end date of every hunting season in our state and the one next door. He can tell you the due date of every hunting application and what is required for submission. He can recall every animal he's ever harvested, the where, when and how of each kill.

But he doesn't remember what clinic DD12 uses or when the last time she had her teeth cleaned or her best friend's name.

My DH can tell you all of the above, for his own kids and my DD12.

In my experience, it isn't a man thing. It's a selfish-person thing.

My ex never knew what classes I was taking in college, what my grades were, what my work schedule was, my bosses name, my friends' names, anything.

My ex never knew that stuff either, even before he was my ex. And then he would get mad because DD and I knew stuff that he didn't (like, uhm, her teacher's name, the days she had choir practice, real secret stuff like that--so secret that I posted it on the famly calendar that he couldn't be bothered to read). From the time that child was in kindergarten, she and I were conspiring against him. Why it took me 10 years to figure out I needed to get away from that crazytrain is beyond me.

If you asked my SO he would have no idea of SD's teachers name, her psychiatrist or any of the 10 doctors that BM carts her around to.
We don't know alot of that stuff for 2 reasons. 1. We have her EOW. We have never had to pick her up from school or take her to a doctors appointment and most of the communication with school is done through BM. It has just always been that way. 2. BM takes her to so many doctors and specialists for fake illnesses that we stopped keeping track.
This does not mean we aren't involved. It just means that we are never in a position where we would need to know these things.

I think if this was a different generation then it would be normal. My parents are still together, I saw my dad every day of my life and he drove me to school and picked me up every single day. He would have absolutely no clue who my teacher was. He never knew when my birthday was and I bet you he didn't even know what grade I was in lol.
When I was born my dad dropped my mom off at the hospital and went home to watch my 3 brothers then came to visit me later. He went home and my mom stayed at the hospital by herself until it was time to go home.
Does this mean he wasn't involved in my life? Absolutely not. My dad and I were always and still are best friends.
Did I think he was a bad father and a deadbeat because he didn't know the name of my teacher? haha no! Who cares! My mom knew and she was the one who took care of all of those things.
IMHO, pick your battles. Theres nothing worse than being called a bad parent because of something so trivial. BM pulls this crap on us all the time and says we aren't involved enough because we don't know the names of every single one of SD's friends parents or something equally as ridiculous.

Some men cannot be bothered to remember certain things, some men really do have terrible memories.

My husband recently told me that when we were first friends, he would lay in bed at night, saying my name over and over so he would remember it. I thought he was joking. He wasn't. His brain is wired weird, though. Or maybe not wired at all!

Donkeykong is the exact same way. He can't remember any pertinent information regarding SS. Meanwhile, I know all of SS's teachers names except for one.

It's not that I don't remember it. the teacher has this long last name that I have no idea how to pronounce

Mrs. Tzentopulous (I'm not even sure if I am spelling it right). How does one pronouse the "Tze" portion of the name "Zuh"? "Tchuh"? "Teezee"? "See?" "Zee"?