And then there was bm
Bm did not exercise her visitation last weekend. She did not want to take ss to his mandatory school presentation on Friday night nor did she want to take him to his track meet on sat.
Since this weekend was Mother's Day and she was to have him sat - sun, she agreed to take him on Friday instead of her previous weekend.
Last night she did not call during her court ordered call time. She did not answer when ss left 4 messages on her phone.
.... Wondering if she'll show on Friday to pick him up.
Q: if she doesn't and we don't hear from her, is it necessary to show up at the court ordered drop off location in sat evening?
And, assuming she's a no show this weekend, and given her recent texts and professions stating she is willing to give dh full custody, is there an east way to get the order amended?
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I would talk with your
I would talk with your lawyer. I don't see why you should have to meet again Saturday if she doesn't bother Friday.
I would have the lawyer draw up the amendment and see if you can just have her sign off on it and file it with the courts. (I believe there is a process, either in front of your lawyer, her lawyer or a notary of some sort)
I'm not sure she would sign
I'm not sure she would sign it. Even though she sends those text messages to DH and will tell SS she is going to give DH full custoday, that's while she's drunk.
She LOVES to fight with DH about anything. She lives on drama.
Plus... I'm not sure we'd be able to find her.
DH actually thinks she may be in jail, or fighting with her girlfriend or drunk. She's been slipping lateley and it could be anything.
It's about 30 minutes away
It's about 30 minutes away from our home at 5 pm on Saturday - smack dab in the middle of the weekend
If the Sat is her regular
If the Sat is her regular pick up, go and be prepared to meet with her. Then make note of her not showing up. That way she can't drive by, see you're not there, and claim you witheld ss.
It's her special Mother's Day
It's her special Mother's Day visit. But not her standard weeekend. She said she'd pick SS up this Friday from school so she didn't have to do it last friday.
If you are accommodating her,
If you are accommodating her, then I would say no. If she doesn't show up on Friday, then she doesn't get him. This isn't her regularly scheduled weekend. You're doing her a favor. if she doesn't respect your time, you don't need to respect hers.
Well, the court order DOES
Well, the court order DOES state that they are to meet at the drop off point on Saturday before Mother's day at 5 and then again the Sunday evening of mother's day at 6 pm.
So there's not actually a favor. She didn't want to take him last week because she didn't want to take him to his things nor did she want him to miss them so she gave up the weekend but agreed to take an extra day this weekend to make up for the lost time.
We shall see..
I'm not disagreeing with
I'm not disagreeing with you... I just hate that this is how it has to be. I feel like this solution is so hard on the poor kid.
I know. It sucks. When SS was
I know. It sucks. When SS was calling his mom last night (and hovering over the phone waiting to see if she'd call back), I asked him to make sure his mom was picking him up from school on Friday - because it's different than our standard schedule. And he replied, "oh, she always does". I just reminded him that this was a trade-week and mother's day...
He's going to be crushed if she's a no show.
If it is court ordered that
If it is court ordered that she gets the time then you have to show up. Buy something so you have receipt proving you were there so she can't come back at a later date and try to say she was there waiting and you didn't show up. If you don't hear from her by Friday I would not show for the Friday eve pick up by would still show for the court ordered time.