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Submitted by Kdep584 on Fri, 05/02/2014 - 8:22pm

Hello step moms/parents

Per advice in a pervious post this week, I have disengaged from my step daughter. While the arguing and fighting has stopped because we aren't communicating, I'm struggling big time. She walks past me as if I don't exist, told me last night she doesn't wAnt a relationship with me, and said that none if this bothers her.i told her that was her choice and to not expect anything from me. No cooking, cleaning, laundry, rides etc. I was done if that how she felt.

So today, I'm struggling. Struggling with why this girl doesn't want me. Struggling with what I've done wrong to deserve this. Struggling with how to stay strong and act as though none of this bugs me and be happy and not let this affect my son and husbands home life. How do I be the best me when I feel like a failure?

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ltman's picture

Submitted by ltman on Fri, 05/02/2014 - 10:15pm

Don't chase her. She's going to act an ass toward you. Keep up the pressure. Don't worry about not being her friend. You're not letting her get away with he bs. Keep calling her out.

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Submitted by yoursandmine on Fri, 05/02/2014 - 10:38pm

If shes telling you it isnt bothering her, then it is bothering her. Keep it up. You havent done anything wrong and she knows it, thats why shes being a spiteful little bitty.

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Submitted by Kdep584 on Sat, 05/03/2014 - 1:26pm

Thank you everyone for the encouraging words. It helps to know I am not alone. I think another thing I struggle with is I want more kids if my own. And I worry she will flip and try to make life even worse. Bt I think if I let her control that, then it isn't fair to me or my husband bc we both want another baby badly. I guess she will just have to get over it. Bc I'm not living my life for a bratty 13. Year old .