Am I wrong? How can this behavior be acceptable?
As I have written before my husbands ex-wife filed for an exparte custody order last July, claiming the boys were in danger in our home. My husband had custody of the boys for more than 7 years, never had a complaint from DSS, schools, anywhere, on either one of us. The court just yanks the kids with out any kind of investigation. We have been to court a few times, our lawyer asked for a DSS investigation to prove what she was saying was a complete lie, but her lawyer has sat on it, so here we are nearly 6 months later and further along in the fight. So we have found out quite a bit in the time she has had the boys.
She is having the 9 year old go out and shoot squirrels then skin them and then she cooks for dinner, she had her car repossessed, she lives in an out building not big enough for two people let alone 4, her husband lost ANOTHER job, she is telling the boys that she cried for days the last time she lost custody of them, she scheduled and IEP and never informed my husband, she has told the teachers not to let my husband get the boys school bags on the Fridays he has them, even goes to the school 30 minutes before dismissal to pick up the school bags, and she refused to let my husband have the report cards when they were supposed to come home on his weekend. The oldest is failing every subject, and has poor marks in bahvior, something he never had an issue with while living with us.
The reason I am on her tonight is not because of his ex- she is a waste of oxygen, its my husbands mother. We have found out that my husbands mother not only planned with ex-wife to file the ex-parte order in advance of her filing (she actually picked the date she wanted the BM to file), we found she is paying for her lawyer, she is taking the children to all their doctors appointments and not informing my husband which doctors they are seeing, or for the reason, she continually demands she gets a medical card, to which my husband tells her if she is taking the boys to doctors for his ex- then his ex can provide her with the card he gave to her. Tonight my evil MIL, contacted my husband and asked if he would pick the boys up from her house this Thursday when his visitation began, that she had to take him to a doctor appointment. When my husband asked who the doctor was, she refused to give him the information unless he started calling her.
The woman is a classic narcissist who actually demanded to go to marriage therapy with my husband and I when we were having trouble. She has repeatedly inserted herself into the custody issues, my marriage, the very household rules we have in this house. Is this not the most outrageous woman you have ever heard of? Am I wrong to be outraged by this woman?
Geez, this broad is a hot
Geez, this broad is a hot mess. Is she doing it so she can get CS? She sounds like she can't get her sh*t together to save her life...
WOW what the hell is wrong
WOW what the hell is wrong with your MIL??! Why would she want to have any part in her son's kids being taken away from him (especially if he has done nothing wrong)? That is completely insane!
My MIL is always trying to get DH to take BM to court for full custody (they have 50/50). I can't imagine her wanting DH to have SD less or not at all. That is really disturbing!
Do you have any idea WHY BM is trying to get custody of the kids? Is it for CS?
Actually a year almost to the
Actually a year almost to the day before she went to the magistrate with her phoney baloney claims that the boys were in danger she committed welfare fraud, claimed she had custody and that she was separated when she did not have custody and was still living with her loser husband. We found out because we received a notice in the mail that the boys were automatically getting free lunches due to their receiving food stamps and welfare, which my husband and I knew nothing about, which was strange because my husband was the primary custodian. We called the school nutritional services and when they looked it up they verified that the checks were being issued in another county,the county the mom lived in. We called the Fraud department of the DSS offices in that county and reported her. Went down and gave them the custody paperwork and report cards proving the boys went to school in a different county. She was getting almost $1200.00 a month in assistance. We asked what happened next and they told us she would be booted from the system and suspended from applying for one year- one year later she went to the magistrate and took the boys away...using lies. I am SURE she is hoping when we finally get to a real court hearing, that she gets the boys and child support.
How my husbands, snooty, well to do Mother, could actually believe that the shack the boys are now living in, on a family compound, in a poor county with terrible schools, on welfare because the two adults can not hold down a full time job, is better than the great neighborhood, stable home life, friends, and great schools that we can provide is beyond me, other than my husband has tried to enforce some boundaries with his mother over the last year.