Pregnant teenage stepchild
:? Hi, I so need to vent about my stepchild whom I my husband and I have taken care of when she had to stay with us since at the time her mom has her custody taken from her. She did not like to stay with us since we had so many rule. So only like to be with us when she new she was going to be getting thing from us and now that she is a teenager and pregant she does not like me. Should I act like I'm ok with the fact that she does not like me or should I just ignore her all together and have no communication with her.
You need to tell her that
You need to tell her that even if she doesn't like you, she WILL respect you. PERIOD. She will respect you and your rules or she can get out. Also you need to make it VERY clear to her that SHE will be one raising her child, not you and DH.
See everything was ok but BD
See everything was ok but BD texted him that she was hungry mind you she was staying at the BF house. Dad tells her to come on over to have breakfast (keep in mind we did not know she was pregant at the time) i told him to move his shoes to the closet since he like to put them under the bench to the nook table. Dad texted SD and let him know that he was leaving since know one in the house appreciated him (I did not know about the text at the time. I will explain how I found out about the text later). About 30 minutes had pass SD did not come over but did come and leave some short i had lend her. She had ask if I could swiped phone for her and at that time I was able to see that on her phone she had text to her uncle BD brother something at to which he texted back, He always stays...That got me thinking what is that about know one knew that BD was upset since SD was not here. I lefted it like that and said nothing.
A couple of hours pass and I was in my FB page and notice that SD hold posted (Glad you have finally opened your eyes) to which I comment to her "is everything ok who has finally opened your eyes" to with I got know reply. The day went bye.
Husband got over his upsetness and went fishing along with our 2 boys and SD, uncle, anut, boyfriend and grandfather went fishing also. I'm home to with now its midnite, there still fishing I'm in FB at which another comment was not by her saying..had a nice time with dad it the little moments that count to which i replyed yes it is the little moments that count..she reply to her friends only..the next day her mom comments she say nothing mean but daughter say she had a good time and there was know one to get in the way.. that when i new she was talking about me the whole time i was commenting her on FB.
Husband get home i looked thought his phone i saw that he texted her that her was leaving...i told him that what he did was wrong because his daughter was on FB bashing me and now everyone that we know and knows her can see what she is writing. He said i did nothing wrong..WHAT ARE YOU CRAZY!!!
About 4 days later his daughter calls and says her mom kick her out, he asked why?, she say becuase I'm 6 weeks pregnant...husband goes inside. I"m at the table and let me know that he need to go get her. I'm still upset to myself for what has happen eary in the week...and now she wants to come over because she has know where to stay...and here i go again to help out someone who just does not like me..I let her know that she was always welcome at our home. I'm i just opening up myself for hurt everytime i have to deal with her..and that not all she says she need her dad support more now but io here support is always money and now she want to buy one of our trucks that is not for sale. Take for letting me vent sometime I feel I'm alone...when it come to this since his family is very supportive of the pregnancy and for teenagers to have boyfriend and me all I want was for her to finish school, go to college, get a career and now she pregnant and everyones happy for her except my husband and I....