today will be another waste
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we have a beyond gorgeous day here today. dry, sunny, 80 degrees.
it OF COURSE has to be visitation day. this means SD13 will stay inside for all 4 hours she's over, playing on her phone.
i couldnt care less that she pisses it away but it sucks because my fiance has to stay inside too and cant bike ride/walk do anything outside, after being stuck inside at work all day.
i cant understand why he doesnt make her go out and enjoy the day!
and no, leaving her home alone is not an option. not in my house.
So they are just going to
So they are just going to stay inside and ignore each other? Yeah...I get you...a waste!
I would not worry about it
I would not worry about it too much. If BF does not care to spend time with her outside, then it is on him.
EDIT to add....I an very jealous of 80 degree weather!!!
yes, but its annoying when i
yes, but its annoying when i come home after my bike ride and i cant relax in my own home because disney channel is blaring and she's on her phone zoned out.
Turn the TV off! Tell her its
Turn the TV off! Tell her its the phone or TV but not both.
not my place. my fiance is
not my place. my fiance is fine with her over digitized life and likes that he doesnt have to entertain her.
which goes back to my age old question of "why even bother with visitation". there is no "visit" happening.
i feel so honored.
i feel so honored.
I understand your feelings.
I understand your feelings. I can't relax when the skids are in the living room for the same reasons. I love it when they come down and say isn't it a lovely day and then promptly spend all of it stuck indoors on their screens! Well it might as well be pissing with rain!
Turn the tv off ~ conserve
Turn the tv off ~ conserve some energy
my fiance is fine with it. i
my fiance is fine with it.
i dont care much for TV - the only times i had cable when i was an adult was when i was married and then when fiance moved in with me. as a singleton i never wasted they money on cable.
i would either go out and
i would either go out and enjoy the day by myself or invite another friend to go with me...leave them sit there and go do your own thing...Why should you sit their and waste the day with them?
I would get ice cream..go whamming..golfing, biking, whatever suits you... HAVE FUN WITHOUT THEM...Why si and be miserable with them...that is their voice,,not yours,,take responsibility for yourself and be good to yourself....who know it may help them realize how boring they are when they watch you having fun without them...and it may entice your DH to be with you instead and take charge of the situation with his daughter...
Just because they are boring doesn't mean you have to sell yourself short and join them...CATCH SOME RAYS for heaven's sake and enjoy the great weather while you can....
If she is only there for 4 hours..don't come back until she is gone...your DH will start to "get it" after a few times of having to deal with it himself...If he asks why tell him life is too short to just sit there and do nothing just because she visits...
trust me, this is what i do.
trust me, this is what i do. since january i have avoided her visits as much as possible.
This is one day a week, every
This is one day a week, every other weekend? Let it go there is nobody you're going to convince they should be doing something else (like giving up visitation).
we have her two weekdays and
we have her two weekdays and EOW (but that always results in saturday only because she refuses to sleep over and spend sunday with her dad).
yup. this is my SD. holes
yup. this is my SD. holes up in her room all day all summer with the phone and ipad.
its so bad that with her that she used to BEG to go home early to play on her phone when she was being punished at our house by not being allowed to bring the phone.
All electronic displays are
All electronic displays are done by "painting" light on the backside of the screen many times a second. This "flicker" is addicting and is the reason people get addicted to the Internet and games.
If the U.S. government mandated a program of education as it did with cigarettes (addiction went from 50% of the population to 25%) hopefully the educated parents would make their kids go outside without any electronic devices beyond a simple phone for safety.
LOL! Where on earth did you
LOL!
Where on earth did you hear that!?
Unfortunately, the sad "truth" is that our younger generation's dependency on electronic devices is much more severe than any of us thought. This, according to a University of Maryland study that asked 100 people between the ages of 15 and 25 to go without using ANY electronic device for one week. Over half the subjects complained of withdrawl-like symptoms (headaches, hunger pangs, anxiety, etc.). The most severe case asked to be removed from the study after 3 days.
It sounds sad, but that is our reality. As communication technologies becomes smaller scaled and more innovative, our future generation's dependency on them will only grow.
broken.lost, YOU are the
broken.lost, YOU are the epitome of this expression:
"Whenever I want my kids' attention, all I have to do is pour myself a glass of wine, sit on a comfy chair and look like I am relaxing. If ever I want my kids to dissapear, all I have to do is pick up a shovel, or a mop and look like I am doing some chore I could use help with."