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Here's the background:

I am engaged to a man who's wife passed away. She had 2 children before they were married and he helped raise them. So he and I currently have "shared custody" (not legally, just kept it the same as it was before their mom passed away). The oldest, who has always been my biggest fan, has suddenly turned on me. She won't do it to my face, however. She does it on facebook. We go shopping, I take her to the movies, etc...

so yesterday I had everyone clean (myself and the other children) before my fiance' got home. Everyone helped but her. When he got home he asked who all helped. I am not going to lie to him and the other children also said something. So he punished her. She got mad and stomped off to her room. She later came out saying her dad was coming to pick her up because she needed to "talk to him". My fiance' and I are terrified that because there are no legal documents that say she has to stay in his life, that she will choose to leave. On the same note, we can no longer walk on eggshells around her scared of that all the time. My fiance' is wonderful and has said that if she decides to leave, he won't play the "I'm going to go to my dad's when I'm mad and come back" game. I agree we shouldn't. My problem is that she is now posting passive aggressive things on facebook about me. Like after last night, she posted this:

"She may be an angel who spends all winter bringing the homeless blankets and dinner a regular nobel piece prize winner but I REALLY HATE HER!!! I'll think of a reason later." Which if you listen to all the lyrics of that song, it's horrible and describes me perfectly...all the way down to coming from Denver!

I have given her no reason to hate me other than asking her to do the dishes (which btw...we pay for her iPhone, TV, internet, etc..).

How can we handle this? I don't want my fiance' to lose her since he has raised her since she was 3, but I can't have the public hatrid be tolerated either! Not to mention that all of her mom's family and friends are on her page so it makes it difficult for us as a family to stay together for the other kids with her putting everyone against me. Worst part is this, she hasn't said a word to me about any of it. I'm looking for advice, but I guess I'm also looking to just vent. Thanks for taking the time to read it...phew