So I'm back in the house after 5 days away and no contact with other half, wrote an email detailing how taken for granted I feel, the atmosphere, the silent treatment, lies emotional blackmail etc etc - other half seems to have taken it on board - SD18 is still ignoring me but I no longer have to I her chores - BM told her she can't treat me like crap then expect tea cooked and lifts - she wants go out with BM for drinks to the city (she's got no friends to go with!) BM told her she'll need taxi money - mortified look - well I'm not ferrying her around anymore - I think it's sunk in! Fingers crossed!