ok so bm had sd for the weekend then sd calls us and informs us that memorial day is bm's holiday according to court papers,( court papers do not state her having this day as her holiday but I didn't care I would be just another day in paradise here, dh was upset and said he would not pick her up bm will have to drop her off here she wants to pick and chose holidays to have her then she can drop her off too. well today we had a great day until we get a text from sd when are you picking me up ( he didn't answer only because they have been pulling this shit with last minute plans forever) the bm calls he doesn't answer then I get a text "well are you picking me up and when", of course then sd texts again this time dh tells her seeing since they were last minute plans then last minute plans involve bm bringing you home that didn't go over well bm texts dh and says you shouldn't be getting upset with her it isn't her fault ( how could he get upset with her in text?)then bm calls and leaves nasty voicemail "I am not dropping her off so you need to figure out how to get her home, and this is my holiday the papers say so" I go and get the divorce papers (both sets, same case) the first set (divorce papers) state that he is to pick up and drop off and pay CS and etc... obviously not the right paper work now the second set states that she would have sd on her (bm)b-day and split thanksgiving and she will have her Christmas eve no mention of other holidays. dh says honey what do you think, should I just go and pick her up? I said hell no leave her there I could tell he didn't care for my answer but I didn't hold back well after about an hour and a half our great day turned to crap because he is on his way to pick her up ugh!