SD15 is troubled and from what we know has used drugs, lies, cuts herself, and while she doesn't have an eating disorder, she has cut out all meat but doesn't eat healthy enough to be a vegetarian so now she's malnurished but not underweight...try explaining that to a kid. I'm not much of a meat eater either, but I do eat healthy and she doesn't...4 donuts and coffee is not a healthy breakfast. She'd live off of chips or junk if you'd let her.

I bought her some boca burgers, bean/cheese burritos, cheese pizza rolls and we have peanut butter, plenty of veggies, etc. My problem is this. I don't want to change our eating habits everytime she visits, yet I feel compelled to cater to her because she constantly runs to BM and tells her how mean we are (which isn't true but it's how she gets attention, plus she works BM by telling her what she wants to hear).

She's coming this weekend and she puts all of us at odds with her moping behavior, victim mentality and new found eating habits. I get irritated and her father not knowing what to do acts like he has to protect her from everyone. She treats her brother like crap and he's sick of all her drama too.