Disengaded from ss
I found this website today when I was at my lowest about the situation with my 10year old ss. I can not stand this child anymore. He has no respect for adults, the way he speaks to his father is appauling and at times he can be quite the little angle. Then it changes and it changed for the last time. I have decided for my own metal health to just speak the bare neccessity to this child. He has got no manners. My DH has up until now not stepped up to dissiplane this child I have been doing it and always come out as the bad one. 3weeks ago I found porn websites on the laptop and confronted my DH it turned out it was my ss and his 12 year old friend. We told him he can not bring this child to our home ever again. Which 2 weeks later he did. I confronted him as my DH did not want to deal with the issue and told me I must and again I was the pig in the story so I have decided enough is enough and I dont want to have anything to do with this child. I love my DH to bits but the situation with ss is tearing me apart. This is only a tit bit. ss cant say thank you for food and through anger tantrums breaks things.
It really is hard to bear
It really is hard to bear when they pull this shit, I know from experience too.
Put it all back on DH, he needs the wake up call...right? You secure what's good for you, be pleasant with the child, please do NOT let him pull you down!
As long as you let DH know that you are not willing to tolerate disrespect, from iether of them, then, when they do (and they will) disrespect you I'd suggesst that you do as I did one day...ask them 'what sort of people behave so disrespectfully?' DH really was stunned! He had to look at the situation more closely, by allowing SKids to disrespect me he was also being disrespectful in my opinion. I had to make a stand for my own self.
I am having a similar issue
I am having a similar issue with my younger son being influenced by older kids. I have put every imaginable block on his computer and all those in the house. My exh was a porn addict and I have seen what it does to men, marriages, and especially young children. This is NOT something to play around with. You need to convince his father that this is serious and not to be taken lightly. If not, tell him you will take him "out" while he sleeps. JK lol. Sort of.
I am always told that I am
I am always told that I am the adult, but you know what why should i take all this shit from a 10 year old and then his not even mine. Just lives with us permanently so I never get a break from him. I am Bipolar 2 and his shit just brings me down but no more told DH in future when he needs to go somewhere and ss cannot go with he must look for another place for him to stay i am not looking after him anymore.
Must say after I took this decision yesterday i am feeling much better greet him and that is that.
I know exactly what your
I know exactly what your going through! My sd is going through the same thing...throwing fits, disrespectful etc. and my husband is horrible at disiplining her and following set rules. Shes had a tough life because of her druggie mom so eberyone caters to her every want creating an out of control brat of a 10 year old. Im at the same point...talk to and spend as little time with her as possible. Ive told my husband we need to try family counseling or our relationship is going to suffer. This whole situation is draining the life out of me!