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what do you do when you don't want to ask and push anymore???

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Submitted by stepmumof2 on Thu, 05/30/2013 - 6:14pm

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On a previous post:
Just recently BM made her son (5yrs old) call my fiance the other and ask DAD for half of the money for a sport that she had convinced him to take up.
When he has already told her that we honestly cannot afford it, we really can't at this stage. And the child says "mum said if you can't pay for half of it, i can't do my sport ever!!" and was extremely upset. She can afford to pay for the full amount - but no - she loves playing with fire and having control over everybodys emotions and making sure the kids know - that yep, Dad let you down.

So a few days later, we managed to find some money. OH pays for it yesterday.

I have now asked OH to send BM a message explaining to her that adult converstations that include money and the like is not to be spoken to or discussed with the SS5.

3 days I have asked him to do this for and still hasn't happend - even though he said he would.

What do you do when your OH doesn't make action? Rip the BM a new hole and tell her what is right and wrong?
Because it's burning me and I don't want to ask again?!?

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Submitted by stepmumof2 on Thu, 05/30/2013 - 7:38pm

LMFAO.

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Submitted by Craving Normality on Thu, 05/30/2013 - 7:44pm

My SO never bothers telling BM how she should behave because she would not change anyway. She did the same thing, told SS12 he couldn't play sport unless dad paid half. Dad pays alright, a huge chunk of his income, every week, plus she got his entire net worth when they broke up, which he never should have given her all of. She still complains and expects extra $$$. She is never happy and tells the kids that they can't play sport because dad spends all his money on me and our child. Bull shit. He pays out CS to 2 BM's, he's never got much left for extras at our house. I work fulltime and pay for the fun stuff at our house. We just ignore her and the child when asking for money. Eventually, they stop talking about it. My SO does however buy his children gifts he can't really afford (like new NIKES last visit), but as much as I hate him doing that, I would hate it more if he handed BM extra cash everytime she demanded.

Anyway, I went a little off track, my point was though, SO never says anything to BM about any of her crap, because 1 She wouldn't listen or change and 2 Arguing with her is giving her the attention she craves. Ignoring her and her crap is his way of handling her, and I much prefer that than fighting.