Let me just start by saying, that we are not married but I would like to marry this man someday if not for one problem...an extremely spoiled 5 year old "princess". I have 3 myself (15, 12, and 2). I was so excited to met her...and then I did. This child is out of control. She screams and yells constantly...whines constantly...has daddy doing things she can do herself constantly...has an inability to share constantly. My man says she wants everyone to like her so much but I'm finding it impossible to do. I used to work for the weekends(not really lol) but now I can't wait for the week to begin. I know she's going to be there when I get home and stress about it all day. This kid doesn't listen at all. If I hear one more time "Daddy I said I want it right now" I think I'll blow my top. My kids, for sure, aren't perfect. My 2 year old is having the typical tantrums. My son(12) tries to skip out on chores and my daughter(15) hides. When this kid comes (every weekend mind you) my house is turned upside down. My BS12 asks my boyfriend every thursday if SD5 is coming this weekend and lets out an exaggerated sigh when he gets the answer. She has no boundaries and even my boyfriend tends to let her do things against my rules like no eating or drinks upstairs (or in my car for that matter). I've even found gum stuck all over but its always somebody elses fault. She lies and manipulates. When she doesn't get her way she throws a tantrum like my 2 year old but louder and more violent and it doesn't matter where we are. He ends up giving into her just to shut her up and when I try to talk to him about it he says "you just hate her". I'm trying not to hate her...I do however hate that she can't do anything without yelling, screaming, whining, and trying to get as much as possible out. Everything my BD2 picks up to play with SD5 takes away. When she doesn't get her way she tells her daddy things like "you love ____ more than me" and all I can do is stand there with my mouth open. My sorry but my kids are not manipulative like that and I don't know how to deal with it. I refuse to even go to the store with them; I make some excuse to either stay behind or go on my own. Everytime we go to the store with her, it doesn't matter how many times you tell her she's not getting anything beforehand, it all ends with her throwing a schizo fit. I could keep going all night with this; there's so much more and probably worse I could say. The thing about it all is my boyfriend has completely taken my kids under his wing. My BD2 especially loves him to pieces. He works 2nd shift and I work 1st so he insisted on watching my BD2 while I work b/c its stupid to pay a sitter. I don't know how to deal with this...he's so great to mine and I can't stand his. It's got so hard for me to hold back a smile when I hear she's not coming a weekend. When we get into a fight, childishly he always throws out the ole' "maybe I should move out...you don't like me and my kid anyway". It so tempting when I'm mad to say "you're right, your kids a monster". I've tried to talk to him about issues with her, but he's so sensitive and protective of her. Finally, this Sunday actually, HE was the one with the headache and couldn't stand listening to her whine and cry all day. And hate that I'm not exaggerating. He finally got firm with her, I just hope that maybe he will decided to stick with it. Especially since she got in trouble at kindergarten for being loud, disruptive, and not listening. So how bad do you have to be, to get in trouble in kindergarten for these reasons? I think and can hope that after hearing that, he will continue as he did on Sunday...that his daughter's behavior really is an issue. Advice? Comments? I know I haven't even touched the iceberg on the issue...or am I being a wicked stepmom type?