So the situation was right this weekend to bust BM on her "parenting". The husband of SD's babysitter stopped by FH's work this past week. Filled FH in on all the naughty things SD did this past week. Turns out they have SD5 2-3 days during the week.

I take call for work and when the 3rd shifter called in sick Friday night, I had to go in. Trying to sleep Saturday morning was a nightmare. This kid has no idea how to be quiet or considerate. While I was trying to sleep, FH had my BS12 call his dad. My ex said of course they can come, and that I would just have to drive them there. Ok awesome. While I'm getting myself together, FH calls SD's grandparents. No they don't want to watch SD, they have plans, and have her 2-3 days during the week. They said call the babysitter...FH told them, no, they have her 2-3 days during the week and would feel guilty asking. At this point the grandparents did a "hold on" type of thing...if they have her 2-3 days during the week, the babysitter also has her 2-3 days during the week, you guys have her every weekend, when in the hell is she with BM? No freaking kidding...They went on to elaborate that she never works Saturday nights. In fact she works 16 hours at one part time job, and 16 hours at another. She has it set up almost every week that she works her 2nd shift job, then goes straight to her 3rd shift job. So this b1tch only works 2 maybe 3 days a week and plays everyone like she works 7, and guilt trips everyone saying the other parties won't take her.

After that conversation, FH calls BM immediately. He doesn't ask if she will take SD, he tells her we are dropping her off. She said "but I have to work"...FH tells her, he just talked to her parent's and that she never works Saturdays and has to stay home from the bar tonight to be a mom.
She said "Some of us have to be parent's 24/7" which he laughed at. FH says "are you taking credit for all the hardwork your parent's and ______ and _____(insert babysitter's name)do? Because that's where she is during the week and we have her every weekend...End of story. We are dropping her off.

I was ecstatic. Lets see what happens.