VENT: (ALLEGED )SS3 DHS( ALLEGED) BS3 NO WONDER ITS HARD TO ACCEPT HIM...
ss3 picks his nose n eats his boogers, picks his @$#, hes over clingy, whiney, bratty, materialistic already, lies already, doesnt wash his hands, hes always sick, he gave hand foot n mouth disease few months ago to my baby, gee wonder how he got that, he goes to the washroom w/ door wide open even if he goes #2, gross! , he still wakes up thru the night, flips out if his alleged dad my dh isnt next to him thru the night, hes aggressive, pushes, hits my baby, tries to exclude my baby, yells at him, gets so annoyed w/ my baby, he doesnt listen, tell him something n he just looks at us blank or completely ignores us,treats my house like a big garbage can, leaves food n garbage everywhere, he spits on my 3 kids, hes posessive, hates sharing, flips out if he has to share, he tries to take, claim n not share my babys toys, hes odd, refers to himself in the 3rd person, he gets strangely excited over partial nudity, he'll try watch my kids, dh, or me, when we're privately trying to get dressed, if he sees someone on tv a commercial some1 in bathing suit, male or female, he gets excited, jumps up n down, laughing, pointing, hes a lil perv, in a grocery store, he saw a magazine, he was staring at the girls on a woman wearing a sexy low cut dress, drooling n laughing, very weird for 3 yr old I think, hes impossible shop with asks n expects lots of toys n junkfood, he stares at my chest, even tho im covered up, ive caught him pullin out his thing layin in middle of floor giggling showin my kids his thing they got annoyed n came n told me, hes so much like his bm n whoever the bf is, not my dhs at all, hes the demon child, doesnt fit in my family at all, my kids get annoyed with all his bad behaviour pray to god when dh if dh goes n finds out the paternity, that dh just stays the hell away from this skid hes going to be a chronic alkie like bm n her family, dh n I dont drink or do drugs, hes always gonna be a problem child
He's only three years old? I
He's only three years old? I would start some major discipline right now. You said you have other children...and I am assuming they do NONE of these things...SO I'd start raising him how you raise your other children and use timeout or something. If you and DH don't put a stop it to asap it WILL get worse...he's ONLY 3...he's JUST a baby...You can change him. YOU and DH CAN make all of this behavior stop. You need to get on the same page...And make sure all of these rules apply to ALL of the children in the situation. If he sees your children being rewarded for good behavior - maybe he will follow. It's not too late for a 3 year old. How often is he with you? And what makes you think DH is going to have a paternity test performed? If he is going to do that - he needs to do it fast! you can even order kits online - you can swab the inside of his cheek and DH's and send it in to see if it's a match...I'd get one FAST.
dh has made it very clear he
dh has made it very clear he is going to go ahead with a paternity test
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He's 3? I read your
He's 3? I read your bio...Your DH ACCEPTS and is GREAT with your TWO bios...but you can't even figure out a way to help and accept a 3 year old? Pathetic. You don't like this kid because he is the son of someone you obviously didn't like in high school. Geez. What is wrong with this world? How dare you expect that your DH accept YOUR kids, but not try to do the same with his? If his kid was 10 or 15 or 30 and treating you like crap, that is one thing...but this poor kid is 3.
I am ALWAYS amazed by women who divorce, have kids from their first marriage, expect and heck, DEMAND that their new DHs love, accept, blah, blah, blah THEIR own bio kids, but can't do the same for the kids of their DH...but when the skid is so little and is not PASed or 15 and telling you to f#$%$#%ck off, I am just appalled.
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u read my bio have u read all
u read my bio have u read all of my posts on here???? its a very complicated situation, dh has made it clear he believes ss3 isnt his, im not a bad person, step parent for not accepting him, to me hes just some random kid, a stranger in my home, rubbin off on my younger two. theres a lot of hate, resentment, bitterness between me and bm. she still loves my dh has been trying to break us up from the beginning, bm has fetal alcohol syndrome, she conceived her skid when seperated from my dh when they were off n on for 12 years, she was sleeping with 3-4 guys, one being her supervisor, who ss3 looks like and bm. I didnt expect dh to accept my children he just did im trying my best with his alleged bs ive allowed him in our home, tried to help dh with discipline, I think hes just too young to try to accept me and my baby hes used to bn the baby, spoiled rotten at bms
Sounds like the actions of a
Sounds like the actions of a 3 year old, they only do what they know. it is our role as parents/stepparents to teach from right or wrong.
he is ***3*** what else do you expect?
All children are self
All children are self centered egotistical brats until taught otherwise.
If this kid is a visitation kid then the two of you will waste most of your time trying to instill some manners in him. But Daddy has to try.
If he lives with you then you've undertaken the task and need to get busy instead of ranting here.
dh only gets his son twice a
dh only gets his son twice a week its random days, when bm suddenly has plans with her dh n friends. when ss3 was coming to our house, we tried discipline doesnt work, goes home n we had to try go thru all of it again. bm wont allow more than 2 days a week bcuz shes worried dh can take off money of her child support if dh has ss more than 2 days a week. and she doesnt want dh ever to have joint or full custody
Start. Disciplining.
Start. Disciplining. Now.
Also, get a DNA test. Yeesh. At the very least you would both know. I think the boy deserves to know his real father and the real father deserves to pay the CS.
Also, he might be 3, but his behaviors sound like they will border on out of control habits if left unchecked for much longer.
Get the DNA test! My SO did
Get the DNA test! My SO did one, but it turned out SD was his bio. At least we didn't have to keep wondering if BM was pulling a fast one. It did help me accept SD a little better. You don't even have to start with an "official" test. You can buy the kit online for pretty cheap. I think you can even get them on Wal-Mart's website lol. Then, if need be, you can pursue it legally.
Either it will be negative and solve the problem or be positive and solve the problem, in that there will be no more doubt and bio-dad can assert his parental rights and get more consistent time with SS and therefore stability and better parenting.