When your the new wife so to speak and just can not stand how your husband and ex wife can not co-parent worth of crap.

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The thing that ticks me off about them both mainly the ex wife is how she can not co parent with my husband. It is either her way or no way and no happy medium. For example their was a bill of a low amount that in the paper work she is required to pay half of the bill. She said she refuses to pay because she did not Ok the appointment. But, the day we told her about it she seemed fine about it we even found out that her daughter had a lazy eye for pete sake!. She states that she wont pay until my husband comes up with $3,000 to cover his half of some kind of therapy basically she wants him to pay that and then she pay's the other $3,000 totaling $6,000 for some Brain Balance thing that he already told her that he can not afford $3,000 so now she is refusing to pay any half of any medical bill that is left on her part. But, she wants him to pay half of all the medical bills she accumulated for their daughter that he did not ok. I'am personally just tired of them both acting immature and not getting along. She called me a home wrecker bitch when umm.. she was the one who cheated on her husband when they were married and that is why he did not take her back. Plus, they were seperated at the time him and I met. What does it mean to you guys when the ex wife calls the new wife a home wrecker bitch when the ex wife has been married to a new guy since 2013 and has a kid with the new husband? And what do you guys think about the whole situation? Please comment with good advice that you everyone!

Even paper trail doesn't

Even paper trail doesn't work, I mean it was over a simple $27 dollars she would not pay for, I mean we paid completely for her glasses the daughters no question asked. She just refuses to pay a single dime on anything even when the people who want the money contact her, her response is I refuse to pay that bill since it was unauthorized. I blankly told her that their co- parenting it is horrible and that is what ticks me off about her that it is her way or no way. And that I hope that one day they learn to co parent for the sake of the child because their hurting the child when they don't communicate efficiently. And that I'am glad that my kids don't have to go through this. And this is the last thing I was going to say and for her to not contact me about anything or tell him this or tell him that stuff that is between you two. And that was it for the conversation. She replied with sounds fantastic.

In some states you have to be

In some states you have to be separated for at least 1 year. My ex was dating and met my DH when he handed me the divorce papers. In the state in which I resided you had to be separated 1 year before being able to file.

And if someone cheated, then it is immediately over. The cheaters feelings of wanting to reconcile or be hurt after the other party has moved on is of no concern to the person cheated on. He was free to move on since she had made the decision to end the relationship by cheating.

Cheaters are scum.

Here is what you do about the

Here is what you do about the eye therapy. DH can make an appointment they both attend for review of said treamtne, dh write his check to the place for his portion and BM works out her own 1/2.

IF BM is refusing to get her child medical care, call your lawyer and have them get in front of the Judge along with diagnosis and treatment plan from the current doc.
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This stuff fries my rear end. IF she isn't careful she may end up with no decision making and DH will.

What your sd has is a disability she was born with. NO she should not have ssdi fyi, It is also hereditary and chances are 50percent against her, that her child will have it too. The brain miss-fires and her one eye can not send the signal to see. Her vision in her poor eye is very low. So, her good eye is doing all the work. It is called Amblyopia and when caught in a young kid 3, 4 years old it can be reversed BUT time is very important to her and bm screwing around is actually hurting her daughter. THIS SHOULD NOT BE TOLORATED any more than screwing around any other serious medical condition, or an abscessed tooth, tonsillitis. I hope you get my point.

The longer the mother puts this off the more likely her daughter will NOT be able to re-train her brain to actually work. Her brain will say "YOU know what..you made it this far, you compensated so there POOF deal with it"..

GET a well written and strongly worded letter with details from the doctor showing treatment plan, GET it in front of the Judge...BM, since she agrees with the treatment will look like a big ass.

Sorry but I do not have kind words for a parent like this.

I hope your sd gets the care she deserves the sooner the better.

Also don't try to force a co-parent situation, some parents cant. But this is beyond reasonable and bm is looking really bad and your lawyer should have a field day with this one.

I would say that many in "coparenting" situations may be in codependent relationships that would be far better dealt with as parallel parenting situations.

Just my thoughts of course.