Paying child support!
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I will try and make this short. I have a 13 year old ss. Two years ago he started living with us every other week. When he is with us I buy all his food and snacks. We provide all his clothes and anything else he needs. Dad also pays for insurance on him and his adult brother. My problem is he is still paying her child support. We argue over this a lot. Right now he can't even afford to put me on his insurance. It is like she still rules over him. Am I being selfish? A lot of other stuff goes on but this is my main issue.
It also depends on the state
It also depends on the state you are in. Some states do a percentage of the NCP's income and don't care how much time the child spends with each parent.
I've told him to take it back
I've told him to take it back to court but he is afraid she will make son go back to every other weekend visits. The son would only resent the bm I think. We live in N.C. and he checked on the child support guide and she would actually owe him.
It's not necessary to go to
It's not necessary to go to court if they could make an agreement, signed, and notarized that they agree to split custody and zero support as an example. But if she's has very little or no income then that's a problem. He needs to see the boy is clothed and fed etc.
There is little doubt in my mind that a court visit would result in reduced support but it may not be zero.
First thing for him to try is to ask her if she would agree thereby saving both of them attorneys fees of I'm guessing from two or four thousand. He could try bribing her with a chunk of money again maybe two to four thousand to get her to sign and end future support.
He could ask his attorney to send her a letter and a agreement and scare her by telling her that your husband will take her to court on the matter and she will have to pay an attorney. A lot depends on her attitude which you two know better than I.
I do not see anything wrong
I do not see anything wrong with a parent paying child support in a 50 50 custody situation if there is a big discrepancy in income. However, if he truly cannot afford to pay it then he needs to have it recalculate, cut down or budget spending etc. It is absolutely not acceptable for him to not have insurance. Furthermore it could end up landing you both in a worse financial situation anyway as sometimes as you never know what could happen and medical bills are insanely expensive.