This is my 1st post here and I'm glad I found a place where people may understand a bit more & not just judge. I guess I'm here to vent & get some advice from those of you who are in the same boat. DH and I have been married for 3 years now. He has a son from a previous marriage who is now 9. His son wasn't the problem (at 1st at least) but the ex was just horrible. Typical enraged woman who was furious he remarried. Long story short she literally made our lifes hell the 1st two years. Now she has a new partner & child and has mellowed out somewhat.She is still constant drama but a lot less of it. The problem now is that as my husbands son gets older she is also now teaching him how to manipulate my husband. Since we've had so many custody battles & decided it was best he stayed there with her( for our sanity, otherwise she would have never stopped making our lifes hell) he spends a lot more time there with her & 3 other of her stepchildren. He is picking up on a lot of bad habits. His mother sends him over to us dirty, unshowered etc.. He is 9 and still doesn't know how to wipe correctly. He makes a huge mess in his underwear n bathroom. I've tried to be nice n explain u don't do that, but he just doesn't listen. I am now expecting our 1st baby. And honestly it sounds horrible but I wish he wouldn't come over at all. The pregnancy has been hard enough & dealing with him and his mother doesn't help. My DH is the typical dad who parents with guilt. So he is always too nice. I wish I didn't feel this way about my stepson but I do. No matter how I look at it 99% of our fights since day one have involved him and his mother. So its hard to not feel resentment. Now with me being pregnant I feel like it should be a happy time for us, and honestly all it is constant arguments over his son. Every Sunday when we dropp him off my husband changes attitude towards everything and gets all bummed because he has to stay with his mother. I feel like well what about us? Our soon to be here son, don't we count? I'm just so sick and tired, I feel like things will never change n only get worst. I try to focus on my baby & making my marriage better for him. But boy is hard when there is so much going on out of ur reach. I feel depressed n constantly cry. DH n I haven't spoken in two days since our last argument over his son. I just need some advice....