sulky kids manipulating bm
i've been with this guy for a year when i first met him he had broken up with his wife and she was still living together with his 2 kids. they had previously been separated 4 yrs and back together for 1 yr and it just didn't work. i on the other hand had been sparated 7 years with 2 kids, their dad later committed suicide and was comfortable where i was at. my kids no boundries and are easy to get along with.his ex txts and rings all the time turns up to kids sport on his week. his son was sick and wanted to see his dad so she took him to his new work etc we don't live together but have been talking about moving in together. i told him i couldn't cope with her texting him wanting to rush to his house cos the kids forgot their book, or shorts or brownie uniforn etc she needs to take responsibility. so he spoke to her and she cried..............he told her he wouldn't answer her texts unless it was important/ emergency. then she rung after that wanting kids to come over to say good bye to her puppy she was selling so he took them over could she not have got rid of the puppy on her week. she never speaks to me when she sees me but txts him for money all the time which seems to have got worse since he started working. i basically pay for all our food my rent power and my other bills but he never seems to contribute fairly he may make tea 1x a fortnight, buy luch here and there but i feel the rest is left for me to take on board. recently it was school holidays and he wanted my 14 yr old to look after the 10 and 9 year old (his) and my 11 yr old. this was too much as his kids need costant entertaining and fun and excitment. i told him he needed to sort his kids out next holidays as it was not fair to expect my son to cater to his kids whim and desires. his daughter tand son threw paddys most the week. he only helps tidy the house if im shitty with the mess from the 4 kids or complain i need saome thought here i want to break up
If you feel this is too much
If you feel this is too much for your now.....then run! It doesn't any easier. It's constant work and cooperation from both adults in the home. If you feel overwhelmed and are close to calling it quits you need to speek up now. Tell him how you feel. Let him know if things don't change (and be specific on what you need, i.e. more contribution from him for expenses, responsibility for managing his children on holidays etc) he'll be looking for a new place to live. Don't sugar coat anything, you won't be doing yourself any favors by trying to be nice. I'm not saying to scream, yell and call him names. But I am saying you need to be able to speak your mind. He has to respect your needs as much as his kids. It's not fair to you at all!
Keep up all posted and best of luck to you.
thanx OMG thats great advice
thanx OMG thats great advice have spoken to him and shall now see how this goes. im just so exhausted thanx so much for replying