I am new to the site and completely enjoy the candor. I honestly thought I was an evil SM for how I was feeling. I have been dealing with an extremely difficult SD and BM since the beginning. More recently, we heard a telephone call between SD10 and BM on how they were going to lie to us to get our SD out of plans she had on our weekend. They laughed at how they were going to pull the wool over our eyes yet again. We knew BM was evil, we just didn't know how bad. She has constantly taught our SD how to lie to us and get around our rules. It's really sad. I have a BD10 (same age) who is extremely respectful and well behaved and enjoys her relationship with her SD despite having a wonderful relationship with her BD. My DH has his head completely in the sand as it relates to his daughter's issues and only momentarily acknowledges the issues. SD is on medicine and sees a therapist. This has been going on for 5 years and has not helped in my opinion.

This weekend I decided to reinvent myself. I am going to put myself first and take my house back. She is a "tenant" in my home. I will not run a child centric home. Additionally, I'm not in this to win popularity contests. If SD grows up not to like me, it won't be the worst thing that has ever happened to me. Life is too short for us SP not to stand up for ourselves, our children and our home. You can do it firmly...you may not be the house favorite but who the hell cares...we live once. Don't let the miserable step kids and ex's take control anymore.