I'm at my wits end. I don't know what to do. I feel like I am ready to walk away from the most wonderful man I have ever had the honor of being with. He is a guilty dad....yes I know this and try to understand. But I've had it with him choosing her over me all the time. I know kids come first, as mine do too. But I never make my fiancé feel like he comes second. I have been planning my finance 40th bday surprise party for almost a year. It falls on a sat and I wanted to make it a.special day for him. He threw me a whopper of one for my 38th ..catered, band, the whole 9 yards. So I've been so looking forward to throwing him a whopper! He tells me he is picking up his daughter for his bday! I'm like, what!? It's not our weekend with the kids first of all, secondly why can't he get her Sunday for the day if he wants to spend some birthday time with her? He should know I would want to do something for his birthday sat night. We always do. I'm so upset. I tell him how i am just pushed aside and he tells me that birthdays are so special to SD10 and hes not going to deny her time with him for his bday. This always seems to be the case. It's it's his time with her, that's it. It's her time, no one else matters. I've had it. He told me he felt guilty because we didn't plan to take the kids with us on our honeymoon! Are you freaking kidding me! I love my girls to pieces and they are my world, but I sure the heck want adult time and special time with my partner. I am so ready to call it quits. Please help. Am I being irrational or am I justified in feeling crappy like i am 2nd choice all the time?