I am new to this site and I am glad that I found it. I need some people to talk to that will not judge me. It seems so many people want to judge me because I will not allow SO's children walk all over me.

A little about me. I have one DD1. My SO has 5 children including our DD1. My SO is a very good father to our DD1. However, he is a "guilty father" to his other children. He and BM's spoil them children rotten to the point that I am scared that my DD1 might one day pick up on SO's childrens disrespectful and spoiled entitlement attitudes.

On halloween, SO's dd14 ran out on the front porch with a knife and told BM that she was going to "f'in kill" her aunt because she took some of her Halloween candy. This is the same "child" that has always been disrespectful towards me the past 2 years (since me and SO have been together). She has told her mother lies about me telling her that she is annoying to be around. I have never looked at her said that before...I might have thought it but never said it aloud. When I was pregnant with her half-sister, she told her dad (SO) to exclude me from family get-togethers so she could have SO to herself. And he did it. It really didn't bother me that she didn't want me around but when SO's obeyed her, that hurt. Yes, that's right, SO and BM1 obey their DD14 and her rules! AT 13, SO had to buy her a pregnancy test to see if she was expecting.

I have disengaged from his daughter since this.

This past summer, SO decided to move 2 of his kids in my house (SO lives here too). My house is a 800 square foot house, 2 bedrooms and 1 bathroom. The house is already crowded enough with me, SO and DD1. But when SO decided to move in 2 more kids, hell broke lose. At the time, SO was not working (got fired from his job) and BM2 was not paying CS. So I got stuck paying all the bills and put food in DD1, SO, mine and HIS TWO KIDS MOUTHS with no financial help! I did not feel that was fair to me, especially since I got laid off from my job this year and I am collecting unemployment. I did not think that it was my responsibility to take care of other people's children. The house was always a mess and we all we stepping on each other because of lack of room. SO's kids pretty much took over the house and my house no longer felt like a home. I let it be known to CPS that the living arrangement was not working and the house was too small. I told them about the lack of funds to feed all these kids, due to SO and BM2's being irresponsible parents. SO also did not bother to make HIS kids bath or shower either.

Long story short, SO's DS5 and DS12 were returned to BM2.

Here is my question. SO has twisted everything around that happened and has told people that I didn't like his kids, wanted them gone and has turned alot of people against me including his sister and BM1 and BM2. Was I being wrong for not wanting to live in a 800 square foot house with 3 kids and having to pay all the bills myself with my unemployment checks. My DD1 had to do without, because I was busy paying to feed SO's kids. Is that fair to my DD1?