Idk how to deal with this!
Not sure how to start this off but here it goes. My Sd 11 almost 12 has become the biggest liar in the world. She lies about hm wrk and grades. She has bad friends. Lies at church and talks on cell or text ppl she isn't supposed to. So her father and I don't believe her for nothing. It's to the point that I can't stand looking at her and I want her gone to live with her mom! She causes stress on her dad which makes it hard for me and our 2 younger boys because then the mood is off. My sd has a big problem lying and today she hurt her neck somehow to where it hurts to turn it... She asked her dad to massage it and he wouldn't because he didn't believe her. That's how bad she lies. Well my husband is at work and a few minutes ago I heard her talking to someone on the phone telling them about her neck and then I hear her say " and my stupid brother wanted to play" well ... That isn't true because since her dad wouldn't massage her neck my son offered to do it. She turned down his offer. Idk how much more I can take of her lying about shit to everyone and us as her parents. She is always rude to the boys and she stays in her room 24/7. Unless she want something. Her dad has custody but she sees her mom a lot . How much do I take of this non sense with her? I have talked with her and let her know I am available anytime for any of her concerns or problems... But... Nothing. And her mom don't want her because she lies and is annoying. What can we do to help her or what are some good punishments for her at her age? She has had whippings and groundings. Nothing has helped. She has started this since 6th grade this year. And we also just found out that she did the talent show and she was not supposed to. And she still denying it!!! Wth?
I was thinking I may have to
I was thinking I may have to let it ride til she get herself in deep shit. So thank u! Lol what's up with the Tweens? Lol
My SD11, to her dad, "I
My SD11, to her dad, "I promise to God I didn't do this or that". Holy shit and he BELIEVES her. Calls me a liar basically. He's a shitty parent though so I don't care what he thinks.
Yea she has admitted to that
Yea she has admitted to that she doesn't wanna be in trouble. Our rule is if you lie you get in trouble. If u tell the truth then no trouble. And we have stuck to that. We mean those rules as age appropriate. But I don't get why she would still lie. That causes her more trouble. And it's wearing on my nerves. I really don't like her because all I see is a maniupator and liar!
Stop letting her do things
Stop letting her do things that require trust. My SS14 lied to me once. He didn't go to the park or a friend's house for a long fraking time because I couldn't trust him for a long fraking time, so he got to see what it was like when someone had to stand over you all the time. And he wasn't allowed to go sit in his room. He had to be in whatever room I was in. Besides, I took the door off his room. Lie to me in this house? I wouldn't.
O taking the door off is a
O taking the door off is a great idea! My hubs agrees!! Thank u all!!
I am very shocked to hear
I am very shocked to hear that she has a cell phone. I am very weird about kids having cell phones. I have the funny notion that they shouldn't have one until they can pay for it themselves, which will make them appreciate it more, and the talking on the phone telling lies would be a no no for me because I am big on honesty, and no child is gonna sit in my house and lie on me on a phone they cant afford. If that's the case she shouldn't even have phone rights. If u have everything u need at home, then socialization is an extra. I mean she's gonna cause more damage telling lies, than you guys would taking away privileges and some materials. Hey get her down to the basics til she can stop lying. Be dramatic. Idk why this helps with teens but it seems like its all they understand, when u act crazy. I have a goddaughter that lies a lot, but I know when she's lying, and when she does I just tell her, everytime u lie u swallow it and it builds up in your tummy. And if u keep telling lies its gonna blow. Lol She's 10 so, hey if it scares her oh well, she shouldn't be lying, but if it doesn't then... she'll just be a liar. Lol Not to be funny but sometimes making fun of a serious situation helps.
I totally understand aquamom!
I totally understand aquamom! I agree! I honestly don't agree with her having a cell. She has it for when she goes to her moms because of how her mom is and all there's no telling what will happen over there. And her bday is coming up and her dad talking about getting her a dang iPhone like we have and I say NO WAY! He says well there's no need to get an iPod and and a new phone when iPhone does the same as iPod. Which I agree but I say still no way! But... It will be in her dad when more crap still happens with her and I will just back out. He got a laptop for her last year and that caused problems after I told him before not to get one but NO... He thought it would be fine and I was just being mean. But I know girls and she almost 12!