I feel like I am going to hate her forever??
Is it normal, I feel like I am going to hate his daughter forever.. Notice I did not say my sd20.. she will never be anything to me.. She talks horrible about him and I to everyone, however whenever other family members are around she is so sticky sweet to her father to make it look like it is just he and I who have the issues. She only comes into the home when she wants something from him and then it is the "daddy and papa" so he thinks maybe she has "changed" I have told him numerous times that people can only sh!t on me so many times and then I am done with them, so he knows how I feel about her. But when does this end??? Will we always have this problem?? I can't see being married to this man and having these issues for the rest of our lives??
I don't think you'll always
I don't think you'll always hate her. It starts off as hate...then it turns to dislike, then evolves to tolerance until eventually she'll just be a little flea on your radar. It's a process that is really hard and it sucks badly but if you're strong you can make it through until she's just a minor annoyance instead of the bain of your existence. She's 20 so right now she's still in that selfish,immature,memememe stage. You'll have a few more years of her being a pest then she'll grow up more and while you may never like her she'll at least back off a bit to live her life.
You just have to decide if you can handle the now and the near future...and is the man worth all this?
"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland
yes his daughter does that
yes his daughter does that too, she recently had a baby and makes DH feel guilty for not being there with her, so when she calls she says "i wanted to come over so you could see your grandbaby" well what is he suppose to say, no i dont want to see him... We have had this conversation before and I have told him that if we are doing anything at all, he needs to realize that and make plans to see his daughter & grandbaby when it is convenient for everyone, that I am tired of always being interrupted by her. We even had a fight last night because he says that I don't love his grandbaby. I'm sorry, but this is a 2 month old infant, I have not even held the baby let alone had any bonding with it! Honestly, I don't know if it is worth it.. I know if I have to deal with this kind of crap for the rest of my life with him, then no it isnt worth it. It isnt worth me being blamed for everything and being unhappy and feeling used all the time. I guess I have some decisions to make.