How do you deal with lying?
I have solved alot of the issues related to SS8, but lying seems to be a hurdle we cannot overcome. I mean this kids lies so much that we don't know when to believe him. He even lies about stupid stuff. For instance: SS8 has a workbook he has to complete over the summer. We were working on it together and I would ask him questions about the problems. Example: the difference between "are" and "is". He said he knew when to use them, but when I asked he cannot produce an answer. He has been stuck on another problem for an hour now. I keep coming over to him and asking him if he knows what he's suppose to do, and he replies Yes, add up the miles. But every time he says he is done the answer is wrong. For the past 30 mins he has just been staring at hte problem and not attempting to do anything. I get so frustrated I don't know what to do.
He also likes to make up stories and believes that they are reality or really happened. Or he will argue with BD5 about something he is dead wrong about. For instance, we were at hte grocery store and he was arguing with a 5 year old that sharks DO NOT live in the ocean, they live in Florida.
How do I combat this? Nothing I have tried has worked.
We never did curb the lying
We never did curb the lying with skid #2. He is 38 and still LIES through his teeth every chance he gets. His father KNOWS it and deals with it by acting as if it isn't happening - NEVER calls him out on it. So...there you go.
There's the occassional lie
There's the occassional lie and the white lie. Then, there's the chronic pathological liars and there is really no cure for them. They won't change. SD9 lies about stupid stuff for absolutely no reason. Is it any surprise that BM is 41 yrs old and has lied to the point of losing everything, getting arrested for 3 felony fraud thefts, and was finally forced to move in with her YOUNGER brother since she burned all other bridges through lying?! I say, let the pathological liars fall on their own swords. Life will eventually make them suffer the consequence of their actions. I hope :?
I still have 10 years of
I still have 10 years of this? Nothing is seeming to fix this. I have taken away, I have grounded, I have made him sit for hours at the table (working on his book alone). And nothing seems to fix it. DH has gotten on board and still SS8 doesn't care and just continues to lie. It is a daily thing and he lies about the most stupid things. Things that don't matter at all. Its like he lives in a fantasy world where whatever he says is the truth whether its wrong or not.
I hate to just let it runs its course becuase my biodaughter age 5 looks up to him and adores him (makes me disgusted). I'm afraid that these bad habits are just going to rubb off on her, and at that point I'm afraid I would have to leave the home. My duaghter is so sweet and smart that she does not need to be influenced by this stupid boy.
I hate to say this but I wish BM would just take him out of state again and out of our lives. He has already made my happy perfect family dysfunctional in the short 5 months he's been here. I wish there was something legal I could to remove him from my household.