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Submitted by Blankspace on Tue, 05/12/2015 - 4:12am

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Blended Family Issues

Dh and I had a big discussion about the stress I feel having sd here ewe.
So we came to a compromise and he agreed to discuss with bm about having sd15
Thursday to Sunday every second week. He said that would be better having her longer too and he would get more actual time with her.
I felt so relieved and hopeful that things would improve having sd for a longer time and a break in between.
He still hasn't discussed it with bm and I was leaving him to it as I didn't want to create pressure but tonight inasked him when he would talk to her.
He said he was still thinking about it.

What?! I thought we came to a agreement, even if bm isn't agreeable at least he tried and worked with me but I feel like he has no intention too.

I feel so let down. :?

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Submitted by Blankspace on Tue, 05/12/2015 - 8:26am

I think he feels guilty changing sd's schedule. That she will be emotionally scarred for life and think he doesn't love her anymore.

Throw in the wrath of bm that she won't have continuous sd free weekends.

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Submitted by ChokinOnLemonz on Tue, 05/12/2015 - 9:14am

Sounds like either BM said no or he doesn't feel like fighting because he knows she will say no

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Submitted by Blankspace on Tue, 05/12/2015 - 10:59pm

We talked and fought about it again last night.

Turns out he wants the change too but doesn't want sd to feel pushed away. I get that. Sometimes routines need to change, infact I think it will be better for everyone.

I'm not sure bm will be so thrilled. So far, she has had ewe free for the last 15 years.

Watch this space for the bm instalment, it's always interesting with her warped view.

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Submitted by IslandGal on Tue, 05/12/2015 - 11:13pm

Whoah! I feel your pain!! I think i'd have a goddamn heart attack if SD came to visit every single weekend!!

If your DH doesn't do what he's promised you, then i'd be making myself scarce when she came to visit. Why on earth doesn't her own Mom want to spend time with her on the weekends? Bloody hell, that is really, really selfish of her!!

Your DH is just gonna have to man up and let her know it'll be changing. He should think about whether he'd rather have a pissed off wife at home.. or a pissed off BM.. and really, who the hell cares if BM's pissed off! This is her child and she should be spending time with her..SMFH!