Hello - I've been on this site for awhile now, mostly reading and occassionally posting back but this is my first post. Anyone else have their own bio kid try to rip your family apart? I met DH when my BD was 7 or 8 yrs old and his daughter was 5. Everyone got along great and after a few years we married and eventually had a child of our own. Now not everything came out smelling like roses but for the most part everything was like a typical family. My DH taught BD how to ride a bike, how to drive a car, etc. He never tried to replace her dad. At times DD would treat him like garbage and he still did things for her. Now I will be the first to admit my DH has a temper, but he has never hurt anyone. Well these two recently had a couple of huge fights. DD now wants nothing to do with my DH including not allowing him to come to her graduation or graduation party. I am at a loss. They are both at fault with their nitpicking. My ex is now going to counseling. My daughter thinks I live in the dark and don't see how scared he makes her feel in her own house. I am at a loss on what to do. I know I was an emotional teen and I keep hoping this is all this is and things will get better when she goes off to college in the fall. But I just don't know. DH has been at fault for trying to step in and parent where it wasn't his place. However DD also shows such tremendous disrespect. I feel like no matter what I do I am going to lose. And so is my little one. Has anyone else experienced this? You read all the time about the SK's causing issues but not the bios. If anyone has gone through this I would love to hear how you dealt with it.