SD18 has chosen to live with us now that she is old enough to choose and we are more than happy to have her! She is a delightful young lady! So sweet and kind...and a fabulous cook! (VERY nice to have around!) She and I have gotten along wonderfully since the day we met along with her sister SD16, and younger brother SS8 who still live with BM over 9 hours away. I love all of his children dearly (I really do!) and they love me too.

However SD18 is slightly awkward. Not necessarily "slow", just a bit socially awkward. She has very little tact and can be offensive if you let what she says get to you. For instance, she was doing her nails and spilled some polish remover on my kitchen table, let it sit there, and made a big mess of the table destroying the finish on a 4'x6' area. Of course I didn't yell or throw a fit, but I did show my disappointment and ask that she be more careful. She instantly told me what a cheap table I have and when was I going to get a nicer one that was made with real oak. Um, it’s "real" Indian Mahogany deary! Grrrr! Mind you, she has grown up in a filthy house, (her mom is a slob) with 1980's Honey Oak furniture and flowered patterns everywhere while my home is minimalistic, modern, and spotless! My children D13 and S9 are used to this and somehow manage to keep from destroying things. Anyway, I'm getting off topic. Her tact is nonexistent. Kinda like how she told me and DH that our marriage wasn't real because we didn't get married in a church. What?!?! Just some background so you see what I am dealing with.

But my issue is this; her lack of tactfulness is starting to cause problems. She is running to BM with every little thing that happens in our household. Of course every couple has a fight every once in a while, well yep you guessed it, BM knows about it the very next day! And we ran out of milk! OMG What a disaster! Yup BM had to know about that too! Your tummy hurts while we are sitting in the movie theater? SD must instantly text BM and let her know that she is in dire pain and DH and I will do nothing to help her! And it goes on and on and on..... Every tiny little thing to text or call mommy about...she is on top of it! I understand that she doesn't do this maliciously, she doesn't have a mean bone in her body, she just has NO tact! And of course BM (That's a whole other story - that bitter, hateful bitch is nuts!)is taking every opportunity that SD18 gives her to meddle in our business, call DH and either question him about what is going on here, or yell at him for not properly caring for their daughter! It's such BS! How do I get her to stop running to mommy with every little issue and with information that is none of her business! It's like living with a spy in the house!

I love her lotsa, I really do, but this shit sucks!