BM meets with former SM with the KIDS
My DH was married to BM for only a couple years - now they have SD10. He then had another SD4 with another woman. Now, we've been married for 3 years. BM1 used to hate BM2 for years UNTIL I came along and now they meet up for "play dates" with the girls. SD10 had no prior relationship to BM2 until her BM started taking her around her just to irritate my DH. (I hope you're understand thing this.) It's just a really awkward situation. Those girls should see each other when they are here at our house, not when their BMs decide to meet up and plot against my DH and I. It's stupid, really. It's causing some confusion with the girls. No wonder both SDs have court ordered counseling. It's for things like this. DH has repeatedly expressed his discomfort with what's been going on, but it doesn't matter. That's precisely what they want. These BMs actually havew nothing better to do than plot against us with those girls. (Who are very happy to see us, by the way.) We know we can't control what they do with them on their time, but is there anything at all we can do?
I deal with this same
I deal with this same situation! BM of SD17 will come into town and they don't BOTHER to let DH know that his own daughter is in town (SD never comes to see him unless it's to her benefit!! Gift giving holidays for example) But BM of SD17 and BM of SS11 will get together and get the kids together...then BM of SS11 AND SS11 will post ALL OVER FB what a great time they had and will have to do it again soon! They do this crap just to piss us off....and sad to say it works most times. DH has gotten to where he says he is over it....but I can tell he isn't. I on the other had go ballistic! The last time they did this crap....I got so mad that I sent SD17 a text that said...."Thanks for letting us know that you were in town! That was nice of you!" And yes I know before anyone says it....that was not my place and I should have just let it alone...but they do this crap all the time and it gets on my nerves. I know they are getting together to bash DH and I. Since that incident I have had nothing to do with SD or SS11.....and really don't care if I ever do again!
And as far as doing anything about it.....I don't know that there is. I sure wish there was something we could do about it but as BM of SS11 put it to me...what SHE does with HER child is HER business! F----ing B****!
****I can do bad all by myself****
Yeah... ex-wife was getting
Yeah... ex-wife was getting calls from DH's ex-gifriend and they would plot and talk about lil ole me. Then ex-wife called DH to tell him that his kids missed ex-girlfriend and that he needed to get together with ex-girlfriend for a playdate.
Well DH told ex-wife that if kids missed ex-girlfriend so much, that she was welcome to take the kids on on a playdate with ex-girlfriend anytime she wanted. Needless to say, the playdate never happened.
The silly things that the ex's will do.
steperg- Yeah, we've
steperg- Yeah, we've actually been researching that, but us knowing it doesn't change much. There's still nothing we can do as far as I know. SD10 has been court ordered to attend counseling so maybe that will come out then. Most of the "symptoms" of that, are things that she does. Like constantly interfering with our time...etc.
NachoMama- Your situation is SO much like ours. Since your SKs are older, it's probably easier to just separate yourself from them. Otherwise it will make you absolutely crazy. That's what I've found is happening to me. I spend too much of my life worrying about that stuff. It's making me miserable. The only problem with separating myself is that I'm very close to SD4. She calls me Momma, always has. In her mind, she's always had two moms and two dads. She was about 18 months old when I got with DH.
Snowflake- BM2, who never had a relationship with BM1 OR SD10 has gone above and beyond to make sure they have one now. They invite each other to birthday parties. They pick each other's kid up from school. No, I'm not kidding. It's disgusting. When DH and I first got together, SD10 told me that she had two stepmoms. What?! They never had a relationship when DH was briefly with BM2. It was crazy.
Their immaturity is amazing to me. I mean, I can see having one ex that was this stupid, but two!? Wow. Could we have gotten any more unlucky??
"It's times like these we learn to live again..."