My Husband DD has two boys from a previous relationship one is 12 the other is 13, my daughter from a previous marriage is 9, DD and I got married 2 years ago, and since then all has changed, before we got married we all did things together and had a lot of fun doing it , we do nothing together now, now his excuse is the age, gender differences in the kids.....I dont think that has anything to do with it!!!!!!!!!!!
During summer holidays when he was off he would take all 3 kids out and do things with, now he will only take his boys and I have to find other arrangements for my daughter.... She really feels left out of things. He will only buy the boys name brand items, and motorbikes, expensive riding bikes, while my daughter gets nothing.. (which she does not want) but point being.... when the boys do get something they are all up in my daughters face about it. that infuriates me to no end..... they even got cell phones and DD pays the bill for them....
I have asked on many occassions that we all do something together and the answer is the boys dont want too!!!!!!!!!!!!! so they do their thing and we do our thing, I feel like we are not a family or even trying to be one.... all seems like excuses to me.. and I am pissed off and hurt.... when i try and bring it up he says that I am against him spending time with his boys, that is not it all, I want ALL of us to hang out.. I feel like I (we) are being pused away, and there will be no chance off being pulled back...