Annoyed and ready to cry lol
I have been with BD for three years. We fell pregnant very quickly and all I saw from him was hardworking and an amazing dad to his daughter. Fast forward three years later we're expecting our second together. His daughter drives me absolutely nuts. She can also be so sweet and loving but we get this side of her maybe once a month. We get her every other weekend and she is downright sassy and deceiving. She will purposely make her 1.5 year old sister (my daughter) mad and her father will yell at 1.5 year old for something she does. And this is often. Whenever she's with us he has zero patience for our daughter and she gets the short end of the stick from him. It's heartbreaking and makes me feel mad at her. She needs attention from someone 24/7. I know she's a kid and requires that but she will do anything to get it. How do you deal with being so frustrated with them? I love her don't get me wrong but her dad makes it 100x worse. He babies her and yells at me if I make her do something for herself such as grabbing her pajamas, dumping her cereal, etc. I genuinely have no idea how to play this role at this point. Ice tried teaching her along the way and it gets thrown in my face like I'm beating her lol. Please help
You left out how old SD is.
You left out how old SD is. It makes hard to recommend anything as age matters. But usually the older kid gets in trouble as they should know better. Similar to the argument that you're the adult and should just accept kids being kids.
Your "wonderful father" is an illusion. He is not raising a healthy future adult, he is raising a brat and we don't need anymore adult brats in society.
Take a huge step back and disengage from SD. Let him handle her all on his own. You also have to hold him accountable for parenting the child you have with him. He can't just run around not parenting either of them. He's the problem. " Ask your father" is the only answer you give SD. You need to declare new , sane boundaries around parenting, putting his responsibilities directly onto him. You are not the scapegoat for his lax parenting style. Read more around here. This is huge problem with fathers in this board (mostly). That get a new lady and expect them to do the grunt work while they coast. That's a big nope! You did not make the skid.