Wanted to share what actually has been working for my DH and me. I have the same SD 13 constantly attached to my DH bs and 0 alone time when she is here. Our therapist said it is imperative that this girl physically see that our marriage comes first. She suggested that for 1/2 hour a night when she is with us we have our alone time after our babies have gone to bed. My DH bulked at first but finally relented. It's been awesome for both of us. I feel less resentful and he feels less pulled. Plus...an added bonus it drives SD crazy!

Plus, I read a promising statistic in Step Monster. We all know the divorce rate is very high (65% to 75%) for women who marry men with kids. BUT the good news is that is just for the first 5 years! If we make it past 5, the rate for us is actually HIGHER than any other type of marriage! The theroy being that we have been through so much crap we can survive anything!