No, you're not cute
So I just have to say, that there comes a time when things that little kids do that are "cute" stop being cute. By age 7, I'm pretty sure it's not cute anymore, it's just gross and bad manners. Allow me to give two or three examples from TODAY!
1. Standing in the kitchen and digging in your ass and announcing to the room that your butthole itches. Yes I kid you not. This is not funny nor cute anymore and quite frankly I'm appalled by it. So while DH chuckles and shrugs it off I'm the one who has to go on a rant about how disgusting and bad mannered it is and to GO WASH YOUR HANDS!!! Pretty sure by age 7 we don't need to hear about when your ass or vagina is itchy, shouldn't she be dealing with that privately by now?
2. I'm so sick and tired of this nightly ritual of tv watching in me and DH's bed. I think by 7, nearly 8 that she is too old to be hanging out in our bed, and to top it off to be FARTING in our bed. Yes, farting. She rips a** right in our bed, and DH laughs. I told him tonight that this tv time is going to be shortened until it is nonexistent. I have the total shi*ts of it.
3. It's no longer acceptable when we go our to dinner with DH's parents or anyone for that matter for SD7 to be rudely pointing things out about people (ex: grandma your teeth are yellow, grandpa you have bad breath). While those things may be true, they're RUDE. By seven you're no longer a 3 year old who says the darndest things, you're just RUDE!!
DH just got an earful from me about this but I still needed to vent! By 7 it's not cute anymore!!
It's 1000% DH's fault I
It's 1000% DH's fault I completely agree. It hasn't quite dawned on him that she's beyond the point of it being "cute" and "oh that's what little kids do". SHES NOT LITTLE!! Believe me, he heard all of this from me tonight. The tv is being weaned because that's what he and her did every night before I came into the picture three years ago, lay in bed at night and watch tv. She's NOT going to be happy when I pull the plug on that one, but really I don't care. The weaning is a compromise to keep the peace with DH.
DH thinks SD is very well mannered bc she can act that way if she wants to. Crank up the charm and the please and thank you'd and he thinks he has done great teaching manners. He would think that if anyone else did the things that she did that it would be repulsive, but she's "only seven".
It's called no filter. It's
It's called no filter. It's rude n disrespectful.
She will realize none of her friends want to be around her ~ because their parents have decided that she is ill manner n disrespectful.
Get Mr Magoo some glasses so he can see clearly. !
You're correct, totally no
You're correct, totally no filter. DH says she's "only seven". I say seven wasted years of learning some manners and respect!
Yeah lying would not fly with
Yeah lying would not fly with me either. In totally vocal when something isn't right. After DH chuckled at the itchy butthole thing I literally said "that is disgusting and horrible manners and it is not funny, so go wash your hands and don't do it again". I hate the kids will be kids bullsh*t. Kids will act the way they're taught to act and I don't care what age they are.
I'd be irritated too. Shame
I'd be irritated too. Shame on dh for not doing anything about it. Echo is right. He needs to become a better parent so his child won't lose friends and be bullied.
Some may disagree with what I'm about to say but here I go:
1) don't have sex with him until he steps it up as a parent. Make him feel the consequences for his lack of parenting.
2) although she's not a toddler, 7/8 is still a little kid. Granted, her behavior should be more advanced than that of a 4 year old. But she's still a little kid IMHO. Still little enough where dh can learn to become a better parent and help her.
I don't consider 7/8 to be
I don't consider 7/8 to be little anymore either, especially with her. She's 7 going on 35 in every other aspect. The next time she rips ass in my bed I'm gonna walk into her room and let her know I'm doing the same thing in hers. I don't care if DH likes it or not. And the next time she rudely starts pointing out other peoples problems I'll also do the same thing to her. A dose of "how does it feel" is exactly what she needs. DH will stand there with his jaw on the floor but like I said I really don't care LOL
Ex- OH was STILL saying that
Ex- OH was STILL saying that (and about similar behaviours) in SD14... "But she's just a kid!" - last week it was repeating "bum bum" loudly at a restaurant (only a burger joint nothing fancy but still - 14yo and "bum bum"? no thank you.
LOL! Agreed!
LOL! Agreed!
Not without a heavy dose of
Not without a heavy dose of de-worming medication first.
Rip ass in her face. That'll
Rip ass in her face. That'll teach her.
Sorry but this made me think
Sorry but this made me think of a Confucius saying....Man who go to bed with itchy butt wake up with stinky finger
He needs to quit laughing at her antics.
Bahahaha omg I just nearly
Bahahaha omg I just nearly peed my pants
Do we share the same
Do we share the same stepchild??
My DH (just this evening) had to cut up SS8's ENCHILADA! I'm like really? Why does he not know how to cut his food with a fork? Or how he kept burping in the car, and I finally had to say a loud "excuse me!" for DH to say that's enough. Ugh. I'm sure he's going to be a delight when he is a teenager.
Every time SD-7 pulls this
Every time SD-7 pulls this rude shit smack your DH in the back of the head. That ought to get his attention until he addresses it effectively.
I feels for you too, my SD9
I feels for you too, my SD9 farted at my face and my DH just laughed at it. I am a Asian (DH an European) and we Asian are very strict with manners, and i think kid nowadays need to learn some manners, especially when they behave towards other.
Omg....maybe she gets the
Omg....maybe she gets the crude behavior from her BM lol! I would tell your DH that the bedroom is a kid free zone, period. When I was dating my boyfriend, before we moved in together, he was so pushy about me staying the night when he had his kids there, so that I could experience the magic of having to watch annoying cartoons and listen to them whine until 2am...grrrr. The first time that I did, I found out that he let them, ages 3 and 6, sleep in his bed with him!!! They didn't even use the beds in their rooms. WTF! He expected me to sleep with them as well. Oh HELL! I got the heck out of there and set up some ground rules. He was probably shocked, but I wasn't going to be dealing that with crap! I told him that it was ridiculous that at there ages they couldn't sleep in their beds and it was extremely inappropriate to have me as your girlfriend sleep in a bed with them. His excuse was that ohhhh he never gets to see them and wants to spend as much time as possible with them. Whatever! When we moved in together, I told him that our bedroom was my place to escape them and their toys everywhere, that I needed that for my sanity, period. I also said that our bedroom shouldn't be about cheerios in the sheets and lego pieces everywhere, that it should be a place for adult time only. Stepping on legos didn't get me in the mood lol. Anyway, I think you should make your room a kid free zone. That might help a bit.
^^^^^ I AGREE! I have four
^^^^^ I AGREE!
I have four skids 4,6,9,12 and they are only allowed in our bedroom for me to do their hair for church. The oldest has zero manners and the body of a woman. 182 pounds at 5'3 she has zero modesty which amazes me because the religion they are is huge on modesty. I honestly don't think she is doing it out of rebellion but out of zero knowledge of how to be a young lady. Seriously putting panty hose on her for the first time was like putting someone in a strait jacket. She eats with her fingers instead of silverware and rips ass in front of anyone. Refuses to close her legs in the skirts they always wear. Loves to place herself in any adult conversation. It drives me insane
Sorry I don't have any advice
Sorry I don't have any advice lol I have one too. I tell her strait out most of the the but it doesn't do any good
OMG ... I would be freaking
OMG ... I would be freaking if I were you!
My SD is 12 years old, and still can't drink properly out of a cup -- always gets a "milk moustache" or "juice moustache", when she eats pasta, her entire lower half of her face is orange -- no exaggerating .... DH just goes "awwww ... you just love your food!" .... Um .... at that age, you should know how to drink out of a cup! And eat food properly. DH STILL cuts up her food and puts butter on potatoes etc!!
Both my SK's have very little manners ... kind of like yours, telling people rude things (more the SD).
I don't have any advice because anything I've tried doesn't work. BUT, I did manage to get them out of my bedroom .... that was a feat in itself!!