I've been called filthy names, I've had my stuff trashed and/or stolen, my cats were tortured, I've been stolen from, I've been called every name in the book, I've been expected to finance there lifestyle and go to work while they make messes, I've been expected to clean up the messes without disturbing them, I've had urine, snot, and feces smeared on towels and other belongings, I've had my bathroom floor pissed on no where near the toilet, a non verbal que that I am to be maid and thats it, I've been waken at all hours of the night due to loud talking and the want for a party yet I'm not suppose to be tired when I have to go to work for it all. I've had soda spilled on a hardwood floor and left for months essentially ruining that portion of the floor, it was cheaper just to clean it up and carpet. I've been told I was a bitch for not buying an adult a second car after they didn't take care of the one I bought when there mother wouldn't and same car was just left wherever even on lake shore drive in chicago when it interferred with party plans, I've been told by hubby but not anymore or he wouldn't be my hubby that I should just deal with it. Oh I could go on. And after all of this and much more I left off the youngest SS still feels I owe his adult ass something.

I have been called some horrible names no one had ever, ever called me before. Pointed out every physical fault I did not even know I had, and I knew of a few : ). Mainly the worst stuff was done to my daughter, to get to me. One particular thing that left me speechless was one mellow night after dinner SD then about 15 asked me what my fondest memory in life was. I came up with a few things. Then she said, with a smile on her face: " My favorite memory is the look on your face the very first time I told you FUCK YOU!". I did not even know what to say and I am sure that look on my face became her second favorite memory...

Many things but the worst was SD stole my grandmother's wedding ring that I was saving for DD.

ive been called a "bar whore" and ignored during a dinner, bt other than that its been okay. They ignore my existense and i ignore theirs.

Besides being told I was hated, I was told my eyes were too big and I looked like a zomby in the morning, that I didn't love SSs and favored my girls. BM tried to serve us with phony legal papers that claimed I was withholding the boys from her and not allowing her to speak on the phone when she heard their voices in the background- never happened. One of the boys claimed we allowed my daughter to have sex with her teen boyfriend but would not allow his girlfriend in the house, not true, he made a big fuss over that. I had papers thrown in my face, I have been cursed at, my dresser drawers were ransacked. My mail was gone thru. One of the boys put pubic hair in my toothbrush and dumped something sticky all over my car. All situations confronted and was told he didn't do any of it. The older boy who had/has a problem with steeling and liked starting fires told my oldest daughter that he wanted me dead and he thought he could do it in my sleep.

Husband & I were not invited to younger boy's wedding, was told his mom would not allow us in her hosue and then found out the wedding wasn't at her house. When his wife was pg we asked about the due date, were given a month (no date). After baby ws born husband got an email that he didn't share with me, when asked, he said he was hoping his son would contact me personally. When I congratulated his wife, she accused me of lying about not being informed and said she never wanted to speak to us again, that would should have been there. (They had not been keeping us informed and I was asking questions.) Last little game came over the grandchild's first b.day party and that's when I finally drew a line. SS's wife had asked me to help her with a midweek party an hour away with 11 one year olds.This meant me taking time from work but I thought I could do it. Was just getting ready to reply and she informed that they changed the date to accomidate SS's BM and that we were welcome to come to that. BM had caused so much trouble for years and that ws all it took for me. It was clear the games were not going to stop and I was always going to be the one to blame. I wrote her back and told her, "Hell no,excuse my friench but that BM had caused too much trouble thru the years and there would only be tension with us in the same room." Since we have gotten a few very hostile emails from SS telling us how rude we are, how we have no proper way of speaking and dealing with issues, that we obviously do not love his child and can't believe we'd turn away from our own flesh and blood, that we have not been excited about the baby like his wife's family. We were told never to contact him, that he enver wanted to see us again.

I never replied to his emails and have had no contact since, that ws the end of the line for me. He is 27 years old and such a spoiled rotten brat. Thinks he knows everything. Such a liar and game playerand I am just done. 22 years of BS with my SSs and their BM.....way too much of my life was wasted to them.

:jawdrop: Exactly HOW do you deal with it still? :jawdrop:

OK, as I always told DH, if you let people get away with it once, they will continue. When I had my son, my pathetic MIL made my life hell. Talking about me IN MY OWN HOME...that I paid for with MY money, her son didn't make enough to live under a rock!

problem solved: get her OUT of my house and she is NEVER welcome back. period.

Before that, skid would tell my DH that she was "afraid of me", but of course, no details. I was never allowed to ask.

problem solved: DH to me - where you u going, can you take my DD with you? Nope. She's afraid of me. Have a nice day. DH to me - I have to go get the car fixed, can you keep my DD for an hour? Nope. She's afraid of me. Have a nice day.

DH to me - bring me some of my kid's clothes to the hospital, she has no clean clothes at home. I get there and BM doesn't even acknowledge me. Neither does her kid nor her pathetic loser husband.

A few months later, DH says to me - I need some X clothes cause BM didn't send any.

problem solved: DH, here are the car keys. Go yourself and buy her some clothes. DH - but I have no money. ME - oh darn! Then drive back to her house and make sure that your pathetic ex sends her daughter in appropriate clothes, otherwise, I guess you'll be here all weekend.

Crazy witch called my DH and harrassed him, flirted with him, blah, blah, blah...

problem solved: ring, ring, ring (me calling the witch) - Yes? Oh witch, hi, it's me...NEVER AGAIN CALL MY HOUSE to put down MY husband, to yell at MY husband and MUCH LESS to tell him to ASK YOU out, to blah, blah, blah...or soon YOUR husband will be giving you ANOTHER black eye when I tell him that you are calling MY husband flirting with him.

His kid? Ever since she has turned into a bigger loser she has NOT contacted me. Then again, she doesn't have my phone number. We don't see her. Not my problem, no skin off my back. I more than MY HUSBAND did EVERYTHING for her, it was because of me that she has VISITATION with her dad cause otherwise her dad would have had to live under a rock and never see her. Not my problem.

Sorry, but I know I am a witch. I NEVER interfere in other people's lives. I never asked loser kid about her mom, her sdad, blah, blah, blah...I didn't care, didn't want to know, don't want to snoop.

You see, YEARS ago I realized that when you allow people to treat your like crap, they will continue to do so. I used to think that if I was nice and just "put up with it", they would eventually be nice. Nope. Doesn't work that way. DH is LIVING proof. So, no, I won't put up with their crap. If they're going to talk about me, then they can talk about me all they want. Even when I WAS nice they talked anyway, so why bother. Now, stay out. Stay away. Not my problem. Don't mess with me or I WILL speak up.

}:)

My boyfriend's adult children have informed me that I am not allowed to have children with him, because they are his "only kids."

They have also said that he is their blood, and since I am not, I do not count. Therefore, our home is not really my home, it is his and theirs. They do not live here, but they believe that they should be allowed to come when they want, stay when they want, hang out, etc. So far, my bf has not allowed this, and he is starting to see their ways-finally. I told my bf they cannot come here, until they show respect for both of us. They actually said I am not worthy of respect. So they dont come here, and they said it is my fault. They love to use me to make my bf feel guilty.

His younger son said I am a whore, and he will not have a relationship with my bf until my bf leaves me. I do not care what they call me, but this is the most significant problem now, bc I think my bf is really feeling guilty, esp. bc his son is now involved in drugs. In addition, the other son is dating a minor. I won't allow her in my home, and I do not want my bf anywhere near her. This is against the law, and I am not letting either of us become involved bc my bf's son thinks he is above the law. His son thinks I am horrible bc of this, and he also said he will not see my bf until the minor girl is allowed to come, too.

At the end of the day, everything is my fault, and I have destroyed their dad. Ironically, I am thinking about leaving, and if that happens, they will be the ones who destroy him. I can guarantee that.

Some of things my SD (27) have done would be:

Stolen little things from me
Refused to speak after I spoke first
Gone through my personal papers
Not introduced or acknowledged me to her friends
Told me "she didn't feel wanted here"
Told me "she felt I was intrusion when she talked to her dad"
Didn't get me a b-day card, but left a huge "happy b-day shopping bag on the kitchen table" on my b-day so I'd see it before leaving for work (it was a gift to her from her mom - nice head game)
Bothered my Christmas decorations and knocked down my Christmas cards

And I've had the typical eye rolling behavior.

As I read all these stories, I am more and more thankful for my situation. My skids are pretty nice, and BM's target so far is DH, not me (that I'm aware of..not that I care). I just have to say all of you should give yourselves a LOT of credit for how strong you've been while YOU have been abused by these kids. It makes me so sad to read what you've been through. Some of these stories sicken me and I just sit here shaking my head. These kids are MEAN...seriously sadistic! I know how hard I'm finding my situation, and it's not nearly as bad as yours. Big hugs to all of you and I pray you find peace in your lives. You MORE than deserve it!

My SD ran over my dog-in front of me. Then tried to tell me and DH that she "Didn't see him!" BULLSHIT-(this happened 3 days ago...I'm still in shock...) After she ran him over, she just rolled down the window and said "I didn't see him! and drove off-this dog tried to dodge the car-she went after him. She had better not ever be on foot when I'm driving....

He'll be okay-won't be able to run with his buddies anymore, but he can ride in the truck with me She's 24 (SD) DH told her never to come back-she still hasn't called to apologize (no suprise there....) Karma will come get her, I hope. You know, if she treats animals this way, you can only imagine the way she treats me....

I am at my wits end with all this crap with my sd. My dh and i are currently the care givers of my sd 25 3 young children. CPS took them almost 10 mo. ago and instead of them being split and going into 2 or 3 diffrent foster homes we took them in and had to "train" to be able to care for them. I really love these kids. It is only because of the kids i am doing this. Not for sd and not for dh.

Well I have also had things stolen from me. I cant prove the money being stolen. She has taken really little petty things like pads, shampoo, soap, make up and who all knows what else. She flat out denies it. She will say "daddy, see what she does to me, she always makes me look bad" well when she had the shampoo in her home with markings on it from a return from my friends salon, I knew she was a liar. (my friend gave it to me) NO BIGGIE my dh says. Yeah if its no biggie then why didnt she just ask. and he didnt give it to her either. If she really needed stuff we could have helped her out.

About 2 years ago I found out about a lie she told us. I was watching the kids because she had to go do "community service" for her rent. (she never did do it and the housing project she lived in never made her.... she has no consequences EVER) Her rent was zero... collected about $800 a month food stamps, her light bill paid, medicade, and collected cash assistance.

well anyway, she lied... never went. I was also caring for my ill father and she told me she would pick up the kids by noon. well i had to take them with me to care for him... i didnt want the kids to see that.... well anyway... found out later she was out running around and then home... When she finally called and we took the kids back around 6pm we said nothing about it in front of the kids. when we left my dh called her and ask why she felt she needed to lie. right away i was making it up (and he didnt even tell her what we heard) then she said it was no big deal and if i couldnt keep her kids without aving to make her look bad then we didnt need to see them EVER...

About 3 months later i sent her a text to let her know we (i) bought them all stuff for easter. ended it with "love and miss u guys"

THIS WAS HER RESPONSE...... (i copied and pasted it)

"You know what Fuck you.. i will always love my dad but you your just a Bitch In the middle and my dad is bein a little Bitch for kissin your ass he walks around like a dog with its tail between my legs when hes with you and for your information youre a liar and a Slut and as far as bein attractive youre a damn train wreck with fatalities you make up stories to make shit look better but you just look stupid cus everyone knows when you are cus you talk in circles and contradict yourself my dad could do better and he tells me not to settle for less i might settle for less but i will never Go that low plus you got an iq of a third grader so please Bitch dont even try to act like you are better than me i bet you woke up happy after that dream and lied to you cus i dont and never will respect you you dont deserve it you are what you are cus of my dad if it wasnt for Him you would still be out Fuckin different guys every night doin coke oh and by the way Im startin college In Philly at the university of phoenix to become a teacher you can think Im full of shit but watch and see you can just kiss my ass and my children you dont have any part In their lives so take the easter stuff and shove It up your ass"

I did not respond...... about an hour later she sends me another text that said "Please if you think that i feel sorry for you because youre sadly mistaken now quit wasten my time"

NICE ISN'T IT.... better yet my dh just blew if off like it was nothing and he is the one who confronter her about the lie.

Well i felt like responding with..... I am what i am due to MY OWN hard work.. I had my own EVERYTHING when i met her dad... I must be a very smart 3rd grader because I have a college degree (unlike her who doesnt even have a high school diploma) I am not a slut... she must be confusing me with her mother. (bm had numerous affairs that is the reason her mother and father are no longer married) I met her father long after he filed for a divorce.... I never did coke and didnt sleep with a diffrent guy every nite. I have more RESPECT for myself.

This was just a few things she has done.... It will never change.... My dh says nothing... he does not say anything to her. I guess i tried to be nice and love her too much and didnt stick up for myself and put an end to it right from the beginning. Now I am caring for her kids.... my dh still enables her and when she says she has no problem.... its every one else... she has never had any consequences for her behavior and no one ever stands up to her but me.... and i am a piece of shit to her for doing it... I am thinking of a divorce when she gets her kids back...... everyone tells me that she will only be overjoyed if that happens..... i really do not care if she is...... my dh isnt dealing with this and i am not taking this abuse any longer... bye bye.... he's gonna be a lonly man because no other woman (unless she is like me) will put up for it like i have for 10 yrs now....

I really do not see how some women have put up with it for so long... i was soooo sick of it years ago... wasted years... i deserve a better life than this.... any suggestions????

My SD21, is a pathological liar, has been for years and one of her favourite thing to do was play the Cinderella scenario, to anyone who would listen....this involved telling them.....

DH and I treated her lke a slave....HAH !!! She had to do all the cleaning, cooking, washing, etc !!!
DH and I were deeply religeous, hence why bfs had to be a secret( this was to avoid all the lies coming out ), also why she was never allowed out ( in reality TOO LAZY to go out !!)
Step Dad had been inappropiate with her...
She had been hospitalized, with various things, broken bones, etc.... NOT TRUE.....
She never knew her own Father (DH) for the first ten years of her life... NOT TRUE....he has had them almost every weekend since she was like 5 !!!!
Lived in many different countries
Involved with the peace corps !!!
Had a miscarriage, couldn't tell DH and I, suffered in silence with just bf and his family for support( ummmm....NOT TRUE never happened, that weekend we were there with HER, no miscarriage, etc)

Loves playing the poor little innocent VICTIM..... I swear she lives in her own fairytale....me of course, as the EVIL STEPMUM, hah !!! Well, now she does resemble a fairytale character, Shrek !!!
Bitchy, yes, but I could fill pages and pages with her lies, but now I'm like.....choo...choo...start running pathetic SD21 the karma train is on your heels !!!!!!

She was even lazy as hell, with her lies, we know of at least 4 previous sad saps....aka bfs....who have been given SD21's Cinderella shit!! In fact, one, who kept ringing her phone( it had yet, again, been removed by DH when she was younger, as part of yet another DH punishment ) nearly died of shock when we answered to tell him to STOP ringing. He started to repeat her lies back at us, and we just stopped him and said, we know how this goes, and filled him in on what he was about to tell us!! Then to tell him he was we THINK number 4 sap.....in about 2 years to be played....

Now, I am not playing HER game anymore...... Not interested anymore, in being played.....feels amazing, just have to love and support my DH in OUR marriage........

That my SD and her husband just used me to get my retirement money to pay for their wedding. What upset me the most is knowing how morally corrupt both of them are. When you're that far gone, there's no hope for you. I just pray they cannot have children because can you imagine what they would do to kids.

The total list would be too long for anyone to want to read, so here's just a partial joyful recap of my SD18's delightful behavior:

-- Lied and told her father I pushed her so I would get in "trouble" (he believed her)
-- Told DH she wanted to come to our wedding so she could stand up and object (she wasn't invited)
-- Screamed and yelled in my face, and when I spanked her (two swats on the rear) after warning her three times, she lied and told DH and BM I "hit" her multiple times and never touched her rear. Bm then used that against me in their custody battle by telling the court she "feared for SD's safety when she is around stepmom."
-- Tried repeatedly to hurt both my baby BDs (threw a phone at first baby BD's head, tried to ram a doorknob into the top of first baby BD's head, deliberately left baby gate at bottom of stairs open and was at the top of the stairs watching second baby BD, hoping she would fall to the hardwood floor)
-- Tried to shove me down the stairs (good thing I'm sturdy)
-- Drank alcohol in our home from age 13 on (DH never figured it out until SD got a minor in possession ticket and admitted she'd been drinking since the 9th grade)
-- Told Dh that it was her or me and by choosing me (he maintains there is no "choice" to make, he would lose her, in an attempt to break us up)
-- Stole a valuable piece of equipment given to me for work purposes (which could have gotten me fired)

I'm sure there are many more I have repressed, and these are only the tip of the iceberg, but you get the idea.

Well I think I have heard it all. When I married each one of the kids came and told me what an Ass**ole he is. They have all told me every bad things he has done that they no of. I told my husband everything his kids have said..I wont be put in the middle of all there DRAMA. I was even told if my husband passes that his one daughter plans on having me tossed out of his home..I look at it not a problem, because really I don't care about it anymore. It was his home when I came here and I still look at it as his home. As for me telling my husband well lets just say he didn't stand up for me that I added to it or I heard wrong. Now I don't really talk to them very offen don't care to. ummm his kids. But if he is such a bad person then why do they always have there hands out for fast cash you no like an atm machine... oh and daddy has so much quilt his kids will never be able to function why they don't know how with out daddy paying for everything. don't care its his money,

SD but my on dating sight so DH would think I was cheating. She tells everyone I am a heroine addict and I won't clean my house. She calls me a fat c word whore. She has stolen from me. Really there is to much to type.

- Telling her Father I did not make her feel comfortable in MY house because I asked her to pick up something she threw on the floor. He got all over my ass so she used the 'uncomfortable' crap for years.
- Acted like she was at a funeral at our wedding.
- Slammed doors in my face.
- Treated me like I was invisible.
- Made nasty wise-cracks - several times.
- Walked with Daddy ahead of me while the three of us were on vacation.
- Encouraged her husband and friends to play RA with her, spitting in my tea, making faces, jokes that I wasn't supposed to understand, constantly had mummbled sideline conversations, snickering, while in close proximity to me.
- Rolling eyes, blowfish, big impatient sighs.
- Never paid for anything.
- Got angry when DH said Happy Birthday to me, getting angry with me for no apparent reason.
- Treated me as if I was a stupid, uneducated hick, and made comments to the effect. Became angry when I knew the answer to a question, she didn't.
- Only nice when she wanted something.
- Became hostile, verbally abusive, screaming vague, unsupported accusations.

I could go on and on.

Wow, I feel pretty lucky after reading all of these, though I'm sure there's been plenty said behind my back.

SD27 actually asked DH to leave me at some point, though he didn't tell me until years later. I'm almost positive SD18 has too. When SD15 was little she asked me why I stole her mommmy's house.

Other than that, all the assaults have been from BM...

He raped a 13 year old in our house and never told us until the Police told us after he was booked. He "soiled" the sanctity of our home, making it into a crime scene. He brought shame to DH...and made my DH think he failed SS.

That kid has done MORE DAMAGE to his father and his family than any nasty words or other things he could do to me.

Making our home a crime scene....unforgiveable.

Step aside, thank you for your post. You can't send gifts to a dead person, and I have to stop feeling guilt over this!

My autistic daughter FINALLY won a school award. I was so excited. The next day my camera went missing. I tore the house apart looking for it. I even asked Snooki to help me. The day after I went to my daughters first award ceremony and had no camera

I came home to new pictures on my PC of Snooki smirking and holding my camera. Time stamped for the previous night I was searching for it so I could photo my daughters ceremony.

She didn't even NEED my camera, she had her own. She just thought it was funny to keep me from being able to.rake pictures

Wow...are they all cut from the same mold?

I've had almost every piece of jewelry stolen including a little pinky ring that my Mom gave right before she passed. Can't even say how much money...oh, and little things like a scented candle...really? a scented candle?

When I busted her on the stealing she couldn't deny the proof...but, went on and told everyone that she stole from me because I stole her family from her...ummm...NO,your BM did that with her drinking and cheating on your dad. You stole from me because you are a junkie and needed to pay your dealer before he beat the crap out of you.

She posted lies about me on FB and told anyone that would listen how I was a money hungry, drug addicted...alcoholic b*tch...thing is she was describing herself...not me.

I work hard for a living...and treat myself well...I pay my own way and have never asked her Dad for a nickle!

She stole my mail in an attepmt to make me late on paying my bills...she egged my house when someone who didn't know what was going mentioned how nice my holiday window looked to her ...oh and just this week she ripped up my garden...I can't prove that one yet but I know it was her she was seen in the area...that one really hurt...

I used to feel sorry for her...not anymore...can't wait for the karma bus to roll her way!

:jawdrop: At the time my SD got married, she was 25 years old. I had raised her since she was 8 years old after her mother "dropped her off at my front door" literally. I gave her a huge engagement party a year before the wedding with almost 100 people, gave her a shower at her home 3 hours away and gave her $15,000 to put toward her wedding. I started to become suspicious when I was not allowed to do anything for the wedding. Her excuse was she wanted me to relax and enjoy. HA. Within a year after the wedding she texted me and told me that she and her DH had just used me to get at my retirement money to pay for the wedding. I asked her why and she replied "because I can!"

Let's see....I've had dh's eldest daughter side with his sister and gang up on excluding, humiliating, lying, disrespecting and generally going out of their way to try to make my life miserable. Been told by dh's daughter that if dh and I get into any arguments even if he is totally in the wrong she will always support him 100% because he is blood. That if her father and I end up not together one day she will have nothing to do with me because I'm not blood, she only knows me through her dad - this is after years of being kind, considerate and decent to her ironically going out of my way to show her how much I consider her part of my family. Been called nasty things, stolen from, lies told about my family, my marriage practically destroyed at one time....My husband pressured to leave me for no other reason than his daughter was jealous and didn't like me, was told to dump me simply because I was JUST his (then) girlfriend and she was his DAUGHTER. I practically had my husbands entire family ripped apart because they were also pressured by dh's daughter that it was me or her. My car has been keyed, items damaged, put up with verbal and emotional abuse from dh's daughter.

Yes, unfortunately these things tend to be the norm in this situation. I've always felt my husband's eldest daughter did this out of jealously and resentment....but then she has and still is even worse bm's SO, so I just don't really understand it all.

Ysd is not like this. She is close to me and good to her parents and sf too. But then again, she ended up becoming dh's favorite child over time and as she is with all 4 of her parents now. As she knows the sun rises and sets with her I think she doesn't act out much because she doesn't feel threatened and jealous like her older sister.

My adult skids are way too sly to say something nasty to my face. They know that that is what I am waiting for so I can permanently ban them from my house and cut the purse strings. They have however said a few things about me behind my back when they were younger, but they always pretended to be sweet in front of me which use to pee me off because I know they are not sweet. However I cant quite remember what they said. I know it was nasty, but I just wish they would hate me enough to stay away from my house.

DH's daughters were awful during our wedding. They were in the wedding party as DH's attendants, and they wore black strapless dresses that I picked out. The dresses had been tea-length like the bridesmaids' dresses, but the SDs had them cropped to nightclub miniskirt length and form-fittingness without my knowledge. They chattered and giggled to each other throughout the ENTIRE ceremony (19 and 22 years old!). During her pre-dinner speech (that I had no idea was going to occur), SD22 called attention to the significant age difference between me and DH. Then, during the reception, they went around to my friends telling them that the dresses were "so awkward; we really like NoOneKnowsMyName, but we are just so fashion forward!" I have many wonderful memories of the wedding day, but my good memories are peppered with SD-induced blemishes.

This is therapeutic.

SD18 stole the chip from my camera that had some photos of me in lingerie. Caught out by mistake and lied about it ("just wanting to frame some family photos to surprise you daddy"). Creepy thing is I have no idea if she still has the photos and who she may have shared them with. I think he believed her too and I had to put my foot down to make sure that he at least dealt with it as theft by a teenager and dealt out some sort of consequence. His response "she is so upset."

Got her mum to send an email saying that she couldn't make it to our wedding, the day before and full of hate and bile. Again slipped away from blame by getting her mum to front it.

Stop me now. I could go on forever.

It appears to an adult skid, I'm a piece of... well, you know. And I don't have a pot to piss in (nor does BF for that matter, but I have a job, unlike BF who lives with skid). (Plus I have a few 5 gallon buckets that could be used for that if all else failed - such as paying rent or contributing to DPs household costs and mortgage payment.)

And skid will kick my ass and doesn't mind doing time in jail to do it, so says skid (never mind the parenting responsibilities that would be neglected were skid to do time).

Skid knows I've "got it all figured out" (skid drips sarcasm while spitting those words).

Because I "like to twist things around" - which is to repeat to someone what they just said in a standard reflective process of verifying that what was said is what was heard, but it doesn't go very far when what was said doesn't make any sense on replay, which is called "twisting things around".

adult skid threatened to beat my a$$. i replied she probably could because hers was bigger than mine.

other skid told me to f-- myself

needless to say Dh never had any balls and thats why they act this way to me

Mine once mentioned to SO that they think my standard of living had improved since moving in with SO and because of him. I said to SO WTF business is it of theirs. Then last August when we drove 10 hours to another town to help SD get her stuff to college and help her move in (first year). She called SO and told him that she didn't want me there the next day to help, just her mommy and daddy...year well BM's BF was there to help and THAT was okay. When SD's birthday rolled around in October I totally forgot about it, no card, no usual $50 bucks I throw at them. Next time I saw her was XMAS and she was all lovy and huggy with me. I do not forget things easily! I forgive, but do not forget.

My SD sent a nasty text to my DH when we first got engaged. We were headed over to her house to let her know about the engagement. When we got there BM was there and I trying to be nice decided not to flaunt my new engagement ring in front of ex-wife. She somehow heard that he proposed and sent him a nasty message asking why we didnt tell her. Was it because of me that I wanted to hide it from her? Like really I did it to not look like a bitch and do it in front of her mother. which by the way was the first time I had met the wicked witch of the west which is what i grew to know about her. I guess with them It is damned if I do and damned if I dont. No pleasing them.. But of course DH said I was being ridiculous about being upset and that SD had every right to be upset. We should have been the ones to tell her and not somebody else.

Oh and the cold and short text messages I get back when I invite them over for dinner.. I just love the oh what are you having I tell them and their response Oh I don't like when you make that my mom makes it so much better. OR the nope cant make it.. no thanks for the invite a cold response back. Alot of times I invite without hubby knowing just to maybe suprise him with his kids coming to dinner. The ONLY reason I invite them is because I feel bad that they contact their dad to see how he is doing. Only contact is when they want something or if he calls or text them first. Well this SM is done trying to hold out the olive branch. If he doesn't see what they do as being wrong. Then its not going to be no sweat off my ass anymore.

And people WANT to become stepparents...CRAZY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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