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Submitted by seesaw208 on Fri, 11/15/2013 - 8:27am

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My ss is wedding this weekend, they did not even send us an invitation and they just told us about the rehearsal dinner 2 days ago. When they called they said there will be about 50 people there and are yall coming or not. 50 people knew before us. I am so hurt and get the feeling they do not want us there. I have raised my ss since he was a baby. My question is how should I handle the rehearsal dinner tonight.

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Submitted by evilstepmotherJ on Fri, 11/15/2013 - 8:36am

I don't think I would even go, saying I already had other obligations. No invitation, no gift either

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Submitted by Craving Normality on Fri, 11/15/2013 - 8:38am

I hate that you SM's go through this shit with adults. It is really unfair.

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Submitted by momagainfor4 on Fri, 11/15/2013 - 9:20am

are they wanting a gift or for you to pay for half of it?? I know that there is always an ulterior motive in these last minute invitations. If you aren't invited to the wedding then why would you be expected to go to the rehearsal dinner??? $$$$$$$$

don't go. save yourself the heartache. on another note.. most ppl had time to shop and get their hair done and stuff. But not you guys..you just gotta throw it together last minute and show up?

No, no no. It they wanted you there they would have invited you when they invited everyone else. End of story.

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Submitted by EvilWickedSM on Fri, 11/15/2013 - 9:30am

Haha....my first thought was they realized that "traditionally" the grooom's parents pay for rehearsal dinner, and that's why the last minute invite. I would say thanks but no thanks, we've already made plans.

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Submitted by EvilWickedSM on Fri, 11/15/2013 - 10:15am

Wait....did they extend an invitation to the rehearsal dinner and not to the wedding??? Am I reading that correctly?

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Submitted by lillfiredog on Fri, 11/15/2013 - 10:46am

OMG! I would not go.... what the above posters said seem on the mark. I can't offer any other advice, but sending you lots of positive energy.... Do something for the two of you instead.

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Submitted by toywas on Fri, 11/15/2013 - 12:25pm

I would definitely not go! They are showing their true colors!!! My DH went to his sons wedding in a different state this year; I refused to go. DH ended up paying half of the rehearsal (his share was $630) - darling SS invited everyone that was going to the wedding to the rehearsal! What an idiot! My DH was pissed but paid it anyway.

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Submitted by seesaw208 on Fri, 11/15/2013 - 12:27pm

We were planning to go to the wedding but knew nothing about the rehearsal party. Sorry for not making myself clear. We were hurt because they acted like we were not invited.

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Submitted by toywas on Fri, 11/15/2013 - 12:30pm

It's plain and simple - you're expected to pay for the rehearsal dinner!!!

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Submitted by Sambolina1 on Fri, 11/15/2013 - 1:55pm

TWO DAYS NOTICE? Wow, at least they called. It would have been super duper klassy if they'd have texted. I agree that they just want you to foot the bill and don't *really* want you there. Just the credit card, thanks! Last year, in your position, I would have brushed it allll aside and gone...but today? Heck no. Going speaks volumes. As in screaming that his behavior is fine with you, please, do it again!

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Submitted by jennaspace on Fri, 11/15/2013 - 7:23pm

Since they invited you last minute, it's likely they don't want you to go. This way they can say they invited you but still not have you come because you probably have other plans. I wouldn't go somewhere I wasn't wanted. You already have plans... to be anywhere but there. Go have fun with a memorable date with hubby.