I have had enough of this 31 y/o brat ss and his determination to start trouble. He has a good life,married a girl who's parents are wealthy, which impresses both my ss's, good job, state trooper, which impresses everyone, especially dad, he's the golden boy. SS has always professed to want only happiness for his father. He disliked, even hated, every woman dad dated before he married me.I have done nothing to deserve his crap. When he lived with us, (I purchased a mother daughter so he could have privacy), I noticed vomit in the toilets, long story short, ss was bulimic. At the gym everyday, smile for the camera, puke up gallons of ice cream. My husband was concerned, he caught him sticking his finger down his throat. I thought he should get some professional help. As a nurse, I knew what affects this awful disease has on the body. SS doesn't like anyone to see anything but perfection. I was warned about my husbands tendency to view him as crowned prince before we married 8 years ago.BM is diagnosed bipolar, maybe issues stem from that. He is a vicious enemy, I have come to find. I was not invited to baby shower, very humiliating for me. My husband was upset, but I wasn't invited to the christening, and that was awful. My other ss, who has ups & downs with both brother & dad, told me he said I would never be allowed near that baby. That was terrible to hear, I love children, and babysit a lot for step granddaughters, and my daughters son. My step granddaughter is 8, told me she liked me better than her bg, I told her not to say that to anyone. Shortly after, I was babysitting the younger gd, she's 4, innocently says to dad, other ss, Am I in trouble for calling grandma Sue grandma? Cause g ma -- said she's not my real grandma.Very jealous, angry woman, I only met her once at a wedding where she got absolutely stinking drunk, made a fool out of herself. Adult ss furious my husband chose not to attend christening of his first grandson because I wasn't invited. I was frankly surprised he didn't go, but he was very morose and upset all day. SS comes to our home, had been drinking, to confront us. He drove like a nascar driver, revving the engine. My neighbors have an autistic child who wanders sometimes. SS could have killed someone, residential neighborhood. The brat yelled outside, then left in a rage. He's a cop, so he can go 100mph, idiot. I think my husband was going to the christening, but I found out 15 minutes before by chance. The matriarch, my mother in law said h should have gone without me, at least to church. I have always been close with her, now she won't return my calls. I'm sick of this garbage. My ex in laws would never behave this way. My husband had cancer last year, ss visited once in hospital. He calls his father in law sir, a bag of bullshit, phony brat. I feel like I have no control anymore. Other ss moved back in last year, supposed to be 2-3 months. His new girlfriend lives here now. He's never leaving. Pays zero, and dad won't ask if he's saved any money! The horrible thing is I have 3 autoimmune diseases, I was exposed to a toxin at work, it triggered Sjogrens disease, psoriasis, psoriatic arthritis. I can't sue the homeowner or agency, too hard to prove. So, financially I have a bit of my own money, but I invested all into this home, over $100,000. I'm angry, no one came to my defense, not that I know of anyway. This ss gets relatives out of traffic tickets, and he is very charming, ruined our Bahamas honeymoon with awful behavior. I thought once he got married he would change, focus on dad less. Actually, the first year of his marriage he ignored his dad, too busy with new father in law. That really hurt my husband. This is never going to change. My husband is going on a 3 week trip with ss. I don't like the drama, I hate the disrespect.