SS19 Not going anywhere- mini vent
I recently overheard my fiance talk to his son(19) about college. His son is 19 and a recent high school graduate, when my fiance asked him about his college applications SS told him that his mom was doing his applications for him(laughable). He then proceeds to say that he plans on going to school out of state to where his mother lives. Clearly he has no intentions on going to college or moving out of state with his mother; why would he? He has the perfect life right here
This brought tears to my eyes because my life would be so better if he was not living with us, he does nothing but smoke marijuana and sleep. My fiance does not enforce anything on him whatsoever and it's starting to get out of hand. I talked to my fiance and it was either he goes or I do, looks like I am the one that is leaving. I love my fiance but he has no backbone and would much rather be a friend to his son than a parent.
It sucks that it has to be this way but I am sick of the stupidty from both father and son, and shame on me for putting up with it this long but I must say I have learned a huge lesson from this and I soon will have the peace that I need.
Have to tell DH
That SS either goes to school, or gets a full time job or lives somewhere else. You are not going to put up with a loser
Well, at least now you know
Well, at least now you know that you are not the priority in your fiance's life. I hope you make that "ex-fiance" immediately.
Don't settle for someone who doesn't love you enough to take your needs into consideration.You'll always be the one to suck it up, deal with his excuses, and sacrifice your own life and comfort for his convenience.
That's no way to live.
Why can't these weak daddies
Why can't these weak daddies see that they're doing no favors for either themselves or their coddled offspring?
Fiancé has shown you who he
Fiancé has shown you who he is. Believe him.
While leaving will be hard, it's much easier to leave a fiancé than a spouse. Get your ducks in a row and leave.
I suggest you look up “dave ramsey on youtube
he has so many videos on parents failing and reinforcing the emotionally stunted growth of what should be adults...
his view is if you are not in fulltime school or a fulltime job then you move out now, not a week but now!! You on school holidays, then work a fulltime job!! This is not negotiable!!
kidults bitching mum or dad kicking them out of home as a 20yr old!! Great!! They should be doing that because you need to mature and work towards it and it ain’t happening freeloading at home. You never hear about these kidults contributing heavily towards utilities and groceries