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Submitted by ItAlmostWorked on Thu, 06/14/2012 - 6:08am

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It hasn't even been a week yet and the poisonous negativity has infiltrated the house. I have remained disengaged but today is the first day I feel like I could throw up. It is hard deflecting the shit in the air. Finally, DH is starting to argue with me about ridiculous things. Gee, wonder who has him all worked up. He allows himself to be played like a victim puppet. So sickening. I don't think we can all live together on any long term basis anymore. I mean, less than a week and the negativity in the house is so thick it is hard to breathe.

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Submitted by janeyc on Thu, 06/14/2012 - 7:17am

Phew I know that feeling, things cannot carry on like this, its unhealthy for everyone, every house needs ground rules which you stick to, Daddy needs to stop guilt parenting and learn to say no to the skids, he is doing them no favours at all, as for you, with this awful atmosphere is it really worth staying? Perhaps it would be worth saying that you need a break to rethink your situtation, if you cannot relax in your own home then something must be done, I wish you well.

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Submitted by ItAlmostWorked on Thu, 06/14/2012 - 7:45am

Thanks, janeyc! When I first came to this forum, it was to learn a way out of the insanity. Things were going well recently. It didn't take long in her presence for DH to be sent into a tizzy-less than a week as I mentioned. If who I am and how I live is so distressing to them, I am more than willing to go live elsewhere and give us all peace. That is all I want. If I need to leave to get it, so be it. I am being very direct about this with DH. Enough already. I gave it my best and there is nothing left to give. I need to guard my own health and happiness and that of my bios. We have not been "good enough" for them in a while. Ok, whatever. Having a house to sell will cause the process to take a while if that is what I ultimately decide to do. There is not enough $ to buy me out so I can just leave. Worst case scenario, I will just leave anyway. I know some of what I am saying is a repeat of about a month or so ago. Was hoping I wouldn't be experiencing all of this again so soon.

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Submitted by sandye21 on Thu, 06/14/2012 - 9:23pm

I got to the point where you are now with DH. I was ready to get a divorce and put my losses aside. But when push came to shove he decided it was more benificial (probably financially) for him to stay and work things out. But if you decide to leave, please leave with your share of the assets. Especially if you have kids.