So we are at MIL who is 88, we stay one night a week with her. SD30 knows this. Her phone rings, she answers, no one is there...then immediately my husband's cell rings. It's HER. SD30. I can hear her because she talks loud, and I am sitting right next to my husband. Her tone is sweet and I swear FLIRTY. This bitch actually talks to her dad like she is trying to be flirty with him. That in itself, irritates me. But I sit there. Then he asks her how did it go with her son (4 year old) She was saying something and then the call dropped.
I said what are you talking about? It sounded like something was wrong with her son.
He then casually says she called him Friday or a few days ago and they think he may be having seizures. I am thinking WTH? You haven't said a word about it.
She calls right back, he goes outside to talk due to bad phone reception at his mothers.
Comes back in, I wait for him to finish telling me about his grandson. Nothing. He picks up remote and starts talking about TV.
I was pissed. I just got up and walked out. Went out to sit on porch.
After about 5 minutes, I hear him yelling my name. I said what. He yells are you pissed off??
Mind you there is a close neighbor or two that are his family. I said would you shut up so they don't HEAR you?
He wants too know why I am mad.
I said you say _____ may be having seizures, go out to talk, come in and start talking about the damn TV.
His reply? You told me to never mention her name to you again.
Uh yeah, I did a year ago and since then he has brought her in to out home, and thrown her in my face on 2 other occasions. And we have discussed her. he just doesn't LIKE to because he knows how I feel.
He claims last week when she was at our house (against my wishes) and we had a fight that I said it then. I did not.
I did say I didn't want her at the house.
But never mind that crap....I said does that include _____ her son?
No answer.
He starts in on me, and then says I'm not going to say anything else.
Tells me she did nothing WRONG by calling him to tell her how ______ was.
Excuse me. I was mad at HIM for not telling me her son might be having seizures.
They like to keep their secrets.
Even if I don't like her, does he seriously think this is something to not tell me?
Finally I said, well I could her her sweet sugary baby tone while she was talking to you...so based on that...I am going to assume it is nothing, because she didn't sound a bit concerned. I said she is probably calling you to get attention. As a matter of fact, HE asked HER about the boy.
Husband actually said he was going to assume it was nothing also, that maybe ___ was just messing around or something. I was told his eyes were rolled yup in his head. Nothing else. He always says No she is NOT calling me to get attention. That is not why she called me.
And she took him to the doctor, she SAYS. And that they had to take him back for an overnight study or something, and she was GOING to make an appointment. Which means she had not YET.
He started to say something about, well I know you and her don't get along. Uh NO, she is the issue and has been from day 1. I tried to get along with her.
I cut him off and told him he didn't know shit about what was between me and her and never has. I've told him for years that she has daddy issues.
I went back in the house. Asked him about something not related and he answered me in a loud hateful tone, where his mother could hear.
And earlier in the night, his mother was talking about some sack "treatment" foot soak where worms came out of her feet. And I was questioning this, of course! And he cut me off and said it was helping his brother who got her going to it. Then he cut me off and asked her, is it making you feel better? She said yes. So he said well then that's all that counts. In other words, for me to shut up.
I am not going to be talked to like he was doing, in front of any of his family. If he thinks that is how he is going to be, he will be going alone. I had not been for 2 weeks due to my anxiety/work issues.

I don't know. I am just VENTING. I went to bed early, mad and woke up mad.
And I will probably still be mad tonight.
I know none of you know all the dynamics with SD30. Just take my word for it.
All she has to do is call anymore and I am mad. Especially when I hear the way she is flirting with her own dad. Crazy bitch. Who talks to their dad like that? I bet she doesn't even talk to her own husband like that....unless she wants something.
But really I am mad at my husband for withholding info about his 4 year old grand son. But after considering it, there is probably nothing wrong with him at all. His daughter is crazy.