One of My BIGGEST Pet Peeves
Have you ever had the metaphorical "finger" wagged in your face about your attitude towards your late teen or adult children or stepchildren by a person who has no experience parenting people of that age yet?
I'm sorry, until you've ridden the puberty joyride, you haven't fully parented. And until you've actually HAD a 20+ kid "BOOMERANG" back into the house when you finally were able to start putting some cash away and your extra bedroom stopped smelling weird, you have no room to criticize. The terrible 2s don't compare to the "F-U 15s," IMO.
This doesn't mean I don't love my children, bio and step. I love them all, I want them all to succeed in life, but HOLY CROW there comes a point in time when you get tired as hell of supporting them, you want them to take the bull by the horns and move on in their lives, to get the HELL out of your house and stop coming to you with their $$$ problems, to figure crap out by themselves like you CHOSE to do when you were their age.
OMG! I know all about the
OMG! I know all about the boomerang. SS23, taken over my house & shows no sign of heading towards the door! I've been on my own since I was 16; I've lived in my car a couple of times, because I din't want to put anyone out. This kid's sense of entitlement is ASTOUNDING!!! He has no shame sponging off his dad & I. His sister, SD21, has been on her own since she was 18. She never asks us for anything, she has her $hit together. I don't know what his problem is. I sometimes don't want to go home from work, because I know he's going to be flopped all over my living room with his feet up on my coffee tabel (ugh!) acting like he owns the place! He seems to think that my man owes him because he divorced his mother 20 years ago! I know lots of people who's parents get freakin' divorced, who are doing fine! Sorry to vent, I guess I got carried away.
Same here. SS22...does work
Same here. SS22...does work but expects us to support him ..we are pensioners. His younger sister has also been on her own for a couple of years. Very small amount of room and board paid to us always with the threat that he is loosing whichever job he has. His pay is more than one of our pensions. Manipulates and lies to my husband so that I seem like the problem. Must learn to disengage..only hurting myself.
No apologies accepted for
No apologies accepted for venting. This was created to be a vent thread!
I'm going to have to steal
I'm going to have to steal your line "the F U 15s" that is perfection!
I'm with you - I made the mistake after the last crazy thing the SS15 did to vent to my best girlfriends. None of which have skids. The "advice" I received was all ludicrous. After which I was hurt, annoyed and dismayed. And I found myself here!
Thanks!
The terrible 2's eventually
The terrible 2's eventually end, the F U 15's never end having had skids makes me hate all kids until they prove themselves otherwise.
I will say if my 15 or 16 or
I will say if my 15 or 16 or any teen told me Fu they better run or I'd pop them in the mouth, step or not. And then they'd find a new place to live. Tough love is toughest on mom. Doesn't mean the little bitches/assholes can treat u that way.
I know. I think the problem
I know. I think the problem is that our generation of parents have made life at home too cushy & pleasant for our kids. I left home and started supporting myself at 16, because my parents didn't coddle me, kiss my ass, and make me want to stay with them forever. I WANTED to leave.