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Submitted by Newimprvmodel on Tue, 04/08/2014 - 6:37am

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Ok, I am just mulling this over and something is wrong. Honestly debated posting this, but why not? I am curious about literal strangers that my dh created, and now doesn't have any contact , other than to supply them with money.
So we looked at his 25 year old daughter's facebook picture the other day. Surprised to see that she visiting with her younger sister, who is FAR AWAY.......semester abroad. She comes home in 4 weeks and airfare to this locale is at least 1200 dollars..
So what is wrong? This older daughter is in debt for at least 90 k for a college education in which she failed every semester! Dh was in court over this debacle, and judge kept forcing him to pay for this...no degree for 4 years private college.....so........daughter had been working and taking college courses and loans were in deferment.. Turns out she can't be in college any longer as her college NOT on break now..
I guess who cares? Unfortunately dh consigned a few loans and now is considering just paying them off. But really, WTF? She makes peanuts at a job, and she is abroad visiting her sister? Dh doesn't believe for a minute that her mother paid for this jaunt.
So anyone agree with me where are they getting the money? I should add she was wearing designer everything.. Does she have a sugar daddy? I do not get that sense......
Dh felt awful, she looked so different in her pics and her kept saying that he no longer knows these people..

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Submitted by Newimprvmodel on Tue, 04/08/2014 - 6:52am

Yeah right. I do wonder how she is going to adapt to paying large monthy amounts..
I just can't understand how she can get away with declaring she is still in school,I have to say I think there is a good possibility she won't pay a dime.........just get a rich dude......
It just boggles my mind how self absorbed they are, and enmeshed. Running around the world to be with sister? When you owe thousands? And that interest is very high on several of her loans.
I don't live that way........so maybe I am fascinated how these chicks live in denial, but again the bank will be coming soon..
Dh will not pay these loans......he may have his issues, but he is frugal as they come.

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Submitted by Newimprvmodel on Tue, 04/08/2014 - 7:40am

I have to wonder why the older daughter had to run around the world to be where her sister is for the semester? To upstage her? I have to say that oldest is mother's best best friend.. The pet..
It is such a farce..

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Submitted by Newimprvmodel on Tue, 04/08/2014 - 7:48am

It is not a typical tourist destination, so I question why go there? And it costs much more to get there than Europe.

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Submitted by Newimprvmodel on Tue, 04/08/2014 - 7:47am

Her sister is staying with a host family for the semester. Do you think the family is allowing her to stay there as well?

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Submitted by Newimprvmodel on Tue, 04/08/2014 - 7:44am

The three of them must have been like pigs in s$&@ when they got their hands on all that money? Lol.......

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Submitted by Newimprvmodel on Tue, 04/08/2014 - 7:17am

Another vent.....since his parents gave them the money last year, I have zero interest in being around them. I get their thinking.....hey if we give them lots of money, then they will like Daddy!! Yippee!! But they were wrong.......have not heard from them since. Me? You do that for people who have treated your own son like dog turds? Never! But that me......simple but blunt. I would have told these brats off if they were my kids or grand kids. It should have happened years ago.
So dh tells me he wants to go to his parents vacation home with ME to help his sibs open it for the season. I go there two weekends a year. I told dh he can go himself. I should have added he should take his daughters and ex to work there!! Lol
But really.....dh then went on a tirade about how me and my children use the home so we need to take care of it. So do I go? If not it will create very vey large waves........

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Submitted by Newimprvmodel on Tue, 04/08/2014 - 7:20am

He paid the money to the college. What is amazing here is that ex did not pay her share of college! She did cosign 40k of that money.
So I get some satisfaction in believing karma will get them. No college degree to show for 4 yrs.....AND LARGE BILL TO PAY.
I do worry that when she has to start paying it, like now??? , will they come after dh somehow?