Help with step sons girlfriend
As my step son got older the relationship with the ex got better. I guess because he was older and could make his own decisions. Well now he has a serious girlfriend. She is sweet, and kind. She treats our daughter...alright. In the beginning of their relationship the girlfriend confided in me that my step sons mom had "painted a picture" of who we were before the girlfriend even met us. Things were great between everyone for a good year. Now the girlfriend and my stepsons mom are super close and she has pulled away from us. That would be all fine and well but now the girlfriend had my stepsons mom text us how we treat her poorly, we dont like her and make no effort. We like her, she just never comes around. We are not sure what to do anymore. We asked our son what to do months ago and never got a response. We asked them to come talk with us about it and they keep blowing us off. I feel that my stepsons mom is feeding into the girlfriend instead of encouraging her to come talk with us.
Your SO. EX
Is not your friend!!!!! She is not going to help you.
How old is this girl? And you
How old is this girl? And you SS? Just let it ride... chances are she won't be around for long and even if she is, she's young and easily manipulated and may not have dealt with step life much and doens't know how to navigate things.
She is 21. And both her
She is 21. And both her parents are divorced and remarried as well. I however know her dad and step mom very well. And I think she is doing the same to them?
Right so that's her model for
Right so that's her model for relationships... ok.
Might be worth a tactful word to SS that how she treats her own dad is how she'll treat him if things didn't work out. But I mean from his dad - not from you. :-)
Oh gawd! I can't imagine.
Oh gawd! I can't imagine. Entitled skids, entitled HCBM and then entitled girlfriend! Yuck!
I agree with others, ignore them. And if something is said I would simply respond 'there is the door, I trust you can find your own way out' and leave it at that.
I wonder if she really asked
I wonder if she really asked BM send message on her behalf or if BM just decided to get in on the drama and cause more.
I feel very strongly that relationships are two way streets and step son and his girlfriend are both grown adults. In all of my personal relationships if I reach out a couple times and don't get responses or get cancelled on and told no then I leave it up to the other person to reach out. It should be given take not all take.
might be worth it
to introduce her to the world of parental alienation syndrome and what it means.
I just laugh at people like
I just laugh at people like that and make fun of them. If someone wants to be an ahole - that’s their problem not mine. Just gives me a valid reason to write them off. I feel no obligation to have a “relationship “ with everyone who crosses my path.
DO NOT ENGAGE!!! Girlfriend
DO NOT ENGAGE!!! Girlfriend is trying to stir up jr high style drama and BM is all in. When she is at your house treat her kindly just as you would anyone else, but don't chase, beg, or try to buy her affection. She wants you to grovel and convince her how much you like her. NOPE! Even if you do like her don't do it.
ss33's gf is a game player. She comes over to the house and completely ignores me and focuses on DH and how "wonderful" he is. That's fine honey, play your little exclusion game. I don't control DH but I have sway about how things go down in our home. You're nice in my home you're rewarded. Be a b*tch...well, you've already missed out on so many things that you weren't even aware of.