I just don't know what to do and am at the end of my rope. My DW and I have been married for 16 years. I have a 32 year old SS who is out of control. He had moved back in against my better judgment 2 years ago with his 7 year old son. I really enjoy the 7 year old, but his dad is just a disrespectful weak willed turd and has been since we got married (too many things to list: drugs, girls, money problems, legal fees... you know the type). The only reason I allowed this emotional/life vampire to return was because of his son.

The SS doesn't pay his bills, is unable to run is own life, is always looking for money, not focused on school and does nothing around our house including watch his own child. I finally reached my limit when he dropped out of school just before thanksgiving because he was spending too much time with his new GF and not doing/going to school. He works maybe two days a week and spends the rest of the time lying around the house watching TV or going to his girl friends place for days on end (I am petrified the dummy will get another girl pregnant). So dropping out of school was the last straw for me. SS is not happy with me as I have locked down the TV (except for Nickelodeon and kids channels for the 7 year old), locked out his internet access, and shutting down his cellphone ect. My DW says he needs some of these things... my answer was he can buy them if he really needs them. Of course I know this is tough as his credit is totally blown. But this happens when you are stupid.

I really feel like a stupid sap and an emotional wreck for letting this go on. I finally told my DW that I can't take it anymore and he needs to leave soon or I am leaving (IE: Jan). She is worried "it will look like we are throwing him out" and is trying to convince me to wait until he gets his taxes back (spring). I was thinking "but we are throwing him out"? I told her I don't care how it looks anymore.

Plus I suspect his taxes will be garnished as he is running from so many creditors and even the State financially. My DW is concerned about his child custody situation with his dead-beat mother. My wife and I talked to a counselor some time ago who kept repeating I really need to be concerned with the SS's feelings. I feel everyone is worry about how a lazy 32 old "feels" when what he really needs is feel a boot in the butt.

This SS has been running our lives for most of our marriage, our savings and retirement funds are being drained and the SS is a disrespectful useless turd. I love my wife.... but I don't know I can do this anymore. Obliviously this SS is not willing or wanting to succeed.

Any advice? Am I handling this right? My friends say I am stupid for putting up with this... I guess they are right.