DH has been in charge of paying all bills since we reconciled 8 years ago. When we married almost 16 years ago, he was retired, a financial disaster, Mr. Generosity to his leaching group of friends, and disney dad to his adult girls. I was the penney pincher all my life.

I eventually gave up trying to " fix" our life , just to have him take us 2 steps backwards for every 3 steps we had gained. Quit my job, refused to contribute any more of my finances toward the household and told him to " figure it out " on his own monthly retirement.

Fast forward to present time. He now has great grandchildren. Grown grandchildren , and all the children of the baby mama's and baby daddies of their significant others previous relationships that he generously hands out gift certificate to for Christmas. Never do any of these people that he sees once a year reciprocate. Some of these people he has not seen for years.

Dh just informed me he told the adult grandchildren not to expect him to give them money next year. He has decided that he is the one on a limited income, and their reproduction rate just keeps on. He will give gift certificates to the ones who are children, but not adults.

Only took about 8 years for him to have this light bulb moment.

Limited income = Bills get paid first= wanting a few luxuries in his own life = does he get those few luxuries or give out the money to adults he never sees or hears from.

Those light bulb moments....priceless