32 yr old spoiled brat!
I'm new, so hi everyone,
Brief outline just to get some views on my current situation.
Engaged to a widower ( wife died 6 years ago). He is 65 I am 55
I have two adult kids from previous marriage and four grandkids, he has one daughter 32. She has her own home bought by her dad, cars, etc, an allowance of 45,000 a year so doesn't work.
A year ago we got engaged and life has been hell since! She calls me every name under the sun, without reason. Things like gold digger, I'm going to marry her dad and steal his money. You get the picture. That she wants holidays alone with her dad, and " quality time" with him.
Forgive me but I find it odd behaviour for a 32yr old. I'm convinced that she's SO selfish that it could be anyone with her dad, not just me, and I feel it is HER who is after her fathers house, money etc.
I'd love some opinions please
Wondeing how far she will go
Wondeing how far she will go is the problem, sourgirl.
Recently she's had psychiatric assessment for her outbursts, they said she does have issues but failed to turn up for therapy, went to Bali instead!
She screams down the phone at her father " SHE is stopping you visiting me"
I never have! This last two weeks have been a terrible strain. My bio daughter aged 36 was pregnant but the baby died, SD ranted as usual, her father told her what was going on and her reply was " tell HER I want to see you! And I'm going to visit my pregnant friend"
It's always " below the belt" comments. I've actually contacted a solicitor for advice about her defamation of my character. My dh has told her that he will disown her if she carries on but, it just runs off her back with more venom that I'm brainwashing him into saying things like that to her. We were really happy until she saw my engagement ring a year ago and claimed it was her dead mothers ring! ( it certainly wasn't). We really don't know what to do to stop her!
She can't hold onto a bf, they all leave eventually, claiming she's a control freak.
Why do these adults feel they
Why do these adults feel they are entitled to their parent's money? Your DH is not doing her any favors!!! Expectations give children character, not excuses. He is creating a dependency which will cripple her forever!!!!
I'm sorry you're going
I'm sorry you're going through this, but by DH supporting her all of her life, SD has grown to not only expect it, but feels entitled to it as well. Your DH has created a crippled, disrespectful, enabled train wreck adult daughter, who's so vile and controlling that she can't even keep a boyfriend.
But it's apparent your DH felt it was necessary to take care of his princess. Since he's done this for so long, he'll likely continue to give her an allowance. But you don't have to accept her disrespectul behavior. DH's needs to set her straight and tell her if it doesn't stop, the allowance will be eliminated.
Good luck.
Thanks all so much for your
Thanks all so much for your replies, you've actually validated me as right in everything I have said to my fiancé.
Bottom line....
He didn't want kids! His late wife did and he gave in. After some years ( around 6 yrs ). He was building a business, she was quite high up in her nursing job but they both worked long hours. SD went to nursery at 18 months, and was catered to at weekends in between their hobby of sailing. She then went to boarding school. College and finally uni.
When her mother was diagnosed terminally Ill they bought her a house so she was "set up" apparently she had always been "skittish" and demanding.
My partner retired from his company in 2006 and signed it to his daughter (hence the allowance) she lives off the company he built. She's never worked except part time in a bar during uni years.
She has drink and drug problems and throws money around like you wouldn't believe.
I've told him he needs boundaries. He recently said he'd disown her If she doesn't stop. I set up relationship therapy for us and the therapist told him same as I have.
I think the problem is that my two adult kids and even my oldest grand daughter is more respectful and intelligent than she is. She jealous I have a normal family who have accepted my fiancé and he thinks they're amazing. We have really tried to include her in our family Christmas, summer bbqs etc but she repays with this awful personality trait that she's owed the world. Ok although rich and high powered father but it seems she's trying to get him into an early grave!
Thanks again for all the replies it's really helped put things into perspective