never married a woman with someone else kid please.
I have never liked the idea of having a woman with someone else kids.
i have taken care of myself not to have kids with the first woman i see because i always want to be there for my kids.
i dont have kids with her or with any woman yet, but now i am 32 and i feel that i need to have the family that i deserve.
she earns more money than i do still i do spend all my money in the house.
i can not afford have my own kids just because she already have two kids that their real father never take care of.
i work pretty much 7 days a week, and honesty i have never been able to do what i wanted to do for my loves one specially my mother just because the money is too tight always struggling at the house.
i will always gonna have this emptyness in my heart for not having the family that i wanted to have.
i dont get the respect that i deserve around the house too.
being step father sucks because you would NEVER gonna be able to economically and emotionally improve your life.
wasting time just because some punk did not wanted to raise his own kids and also never support them money wise.
To the young crowd out there please never get involve with a woman with kids
have your own children please raise them right, they would love you and you would have pic with them hanging in living room and everywhere in the house..... dont be like me
all i see is pic of a family i did not made.
i feel an outsider, i feel empty. its a mess man.
i always wonder what does it feel when u got home and your little tiny boy or girl jump at daddy xD.
this is what i have been missing for years and because its to expensive having already two child from other married i can not have my own. it means bigger house, it would duplicate bills twice. and if i have my own child with this woman i know my child will be struggling unlike this preview two kids they had pretty much everything.... for my own child i think it would not be just fair she or he born in a tight family.
also i always wanted a woman who give me her first baby i means a lot to me.
it means a lot to me.
You are not trapped in this
You are not trapped in this relationship. Get out. You are still young enough to meet someone without children and start your own family.
If you are miserable, leave. Its really pretty simple. You put yourself in this situation, they are not your children, you can walk away at any time.
Go out, find yourself an apartment and meet people your own age who want to settle down and have a family.
Problem solved.
You sound very frustrated and
You sound very frustrated and very sad. It doesn't have to be like that
Please consider leaving and finding someone who loves you for you and not your money
If you want bio children &
If you want bio children & can't have them in this situation, because of her having children, you get out now. Don't stay in a situation where you can't have that, because of someone else (unless it's a medical thing & this isn't). You deserve the life you've dreamed of having. Leave now. Having kids isn't something to compromise on, you WILL regret it the rest of your life. Men's fertility goes down too after 35-ish, they are finding out so much about men's fertility lately, so do leave if you want bios & wont get them here. You'll really resent raising her kids, when you can't have any, trust me!
Good advice generally
Good advice generally speaking. However, if I had followed it I would have missed out on a life with my amazing bride and missed out on raising a great kid as my own.
So, if first fertilized fetus is your goal.... move on.