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Let's just say it is just like all of yours. Here is the problem NOW.... ugggg Went to court got temporary ordrs. SD is 8 birth mother controlling bitch. They have tried to work out final orders between themselves. Her version lifts geographic restrictions and removes all his rights giving her the exclusive right to everything. We are out of money for lawyers and have 5 others my DK to support. He is finishing his degree ( done in a year) I am completing my paramedic training. Things are tight. Do we wave the white flag and give in seeing as how this battle will never end. Or go another 10,000 in debt to a final hearing? I need advice please and my DH is just so tired of fighting with BM I think he has given up.
If there's no final order how
If there's no final order how could you get marrried?
Best thing for you is to let him decide what he wants to do and support him.
And be thankful he wants to take on a chick with 5 kids
Final order to modify child
Final order to modify child visitation. He has been divorced for 8 years, since SD was 3 months old. We have been married for a year. This is the point when BM wigged out. He went from 3 days a week to everyother weekend. She is insanly controlling and jealouse. Our attorney even said she is still in love with him and thats the only rel issue. And yes he is an amazing guy, it's why this situation saddens me so much
My honest opinion on this is
My honest opinion on this is to ignore ignore ignore her, tell him dont give in, throw in the towel, get on your feet. Make her think you give up, save your money and hit that B when she isnt looking! Getter when she is down! Pay CS, get the kid when you can, let the kid know you love him/her send cards and make copies of all correspondences so when the kid grows up you can say I never gave up.. After a while of her bragging she won, she will shut up.. Wait a while longer, maybe even a few years.. Then BAM modify that order! you will be financially able by then to hit her where it hurts.. Prepare yourself for the battle lol Do not take away from your other children just to fight for one when you know she will attack you any way shape or form.. All will work out and it takes time and patience, you have to play the game to win
Depends on where you live.
Depends on where you live. In the U.S. if you live in NY, MA or CA, you might as well wave the white flag because in these locales, the father really has ZERO rights anyway. The BM is considered THE parent in cases of divorce or non-intact families.
I think a lot of people on this board will tell you that they spent oodles on attorneys, etc only to have a 25% chance of getting full custody.
And then by the time full custody is granted, the child has been so PASed out by the BM, it's almost hopeless to "un-brainwash" them. They eventually migrate back to the BM's where there are few if any rules and biodad ends up paying CS again (even though 99% of the time biodad does NOT ask for CS from the NCP BM)
Thanks guys! She sent
Thanks guys! She sent another lenghty e-mail today bascially saying she will fight to the end to ensure he has no say. The female in me wants to fight it just to make sure she knows we won't lay down but the only person losing in this is truly my SD. Your correct in the brainwashing. We teach the other kids to stand in faith and prayer is the real answer. BM just makes another counseling appointment so SD can be told how unfair it is that she is no longer the queen of the world. Why they both snicker at the kids that wear bobs instead of Toms. Its time for the drama to stop it drains me of focus from the others.