My husband's ex wife has been having an affair for the last 3 years with a fairly well known and wealthy man who lives out of state. The first two years they would see each other occasionally although she would tell the children all about him and the kids did met him a few times during that time. About a year ago, the wife found out about the affair and kicked him out so for the last year he has been around the kids alot.

The concern I have is the way she portrays her relationship to everyone and to her kids. She manipulates the truth and the kids are young enough to not question it. She is narcissistic and the stories she tells the kids are hard to listen to. She tells the kids he has been going thru a divorce for 3 years, crazy stories of why the kids have not met his children, she tells her children they are getting married although neither his children or her children have met( his wife just filled for divorce a month ago), she tells everyone how wonderful his 4 children are when she has never even met them, he keeps two houses in his hometown (one for BM and her kids and one for when he has custody of his kids and my husband's children think this is normal).

How do you handle a BM openly lying to her children? My husband and I truly try to do what is best for the kids, we try to show them a normal loving relationship, teach them respect and being honest, etc. we never call their mom out on the lies or tell the kids about the lies. They are 8 and 10. Its sad the kids are the innocent ones, and they go around talking about the relationship like its normal and don't understand what they are saying is crazy. They will be old enough to eventually know their mom had an affair, will they be angry at us for not telling them and how will this affect them in future relationships?